Loosid Sober Tip of the Day February 11

Sober Tips
#1

We are as sick as our secrets.

This is a common expression used in recovery. It is important to feel our feelings and share with people what’s going on with the challenges in our lives.

What we hold inside builds up like a slow boil which at some point will manifest itself in some way, shape or form.

If you are struggling, share your struggles today.

If it’s something that is personal, be sure to share it with a trusted, close-mouthed friend. In 12-Step programs this is normally reserved for a sponsor.

In other settings, it may be more suitable for a professional.

What you need to know is that asking for help is something you should never be ashamed of but rather one to be proud of as you are taking steps to work through your challenges.

It is an act of power and courage.

Free yourself today by letting out what is inside of you and ask for help.

You are worth it.

How did this tip resonate with you? What is your tip of the day? Share with the community below.

With Love, Loosid :pray::heart:

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#2

I don’t keep secrets to fester I think, but I don’t put them on my resume either. Meaning there a a lot of things in my past I feel guilty and ashamed of, and even though a few people do know about my mess ups they still tend to haunt me. Self forgiveness is something I still quite haven’t mastered yet, but I’m working on it.

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#3

As a new comer to sobriety here's my issue with this counseling thing. I found that it's extremely difficult to even find someone to talk to. Going to a meeting is one thing and breaking out of the shell to not feel shameful for going isn't the problem it's actually getting someone to talk to. Granted people or nice they'll give you their number but are they a counselor can they really help me with deep down issues that has making me drink all these years? I don't Is the answer or in some cases to even know where to find help. I've reached out to local counseling there local counseling there 2 months out booked every place in town. I did find a online session that I'm able to get in about 2 weeks. But as somebody that's going through trauma and different struggles that doesn't help me today.

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#4
#5

Totally relate. It's an uphill battle in concrete. If you want to share traumas, let me know. Ultimately, we're in this by ourselves.

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#6

I find that this is a we program. We get to share with others our experience. We also get to share what tools we’ve used to overcome our issues/trauma’s or struggles. Today I’m struggling with Covid. It’s day 11 since I had first signs of symptoms. I have a head cold now. The worst is over. I had a lot of resentments develop while I was bed ridden. Just stewing on these resentments caused me to become RID- restless, irritable and disconnected. I finally had enough and wrote them out on paper. That’s a tool we get to use daily. Write your resentments down! Then discuss them with your sponsor. I totally got to see where I was being selfish, self absorbed, and self seeking. I wasn’t thinking of how I can be of service! I totally cut myself off from the light!
But I can say now my secrets aren’t secret anymore. They are real struggles with a real solution. Just have to write them down. Page 86 everyday of the big book!

#7

My secrets were not secrets they were self loathing disappointment couldn’t do anything right. So when I was able to I started drinking to hide myself to make myself feel better. My secret was I didn’t think I was worthy didn’t think I belong I was different because one person didn’t want me as a child. Even though I was loved by my families and I was told I was beautiful etc. etc. I felt awkward so I guess I ended up being an introvert but now I’m very vocal I try to empower others now if I could just stop shine away from others in my life maybe I’ll find a partner Hotmail partner that’s my secret right now my dating issue putting myself out there there you know it. Good night everyone

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#8

We are all screwed up. It’s what we do Now with ourselves today y tomorrow.

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#9

Kevin Life is a A struggle every day. In the program out of the program it’s a struggle I understand what you’re going through not with the Covid but with the program. I will wish you a speedy recovery. remember how you’re feeling down when you need too Yell at the top of your lungs but remember there’s always someone who will listen. Just turn it over to God or your higher power.

Angelina

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#10

Thank you :pray:

#11

A sponsor is that bridge. There are lots of apps to find meetings and finding a sponsor is critical in early stages. Someone to reach out to with those needs. A good sponsor a true sponsor will meet you to talk through those things. The steps give us the perfect road map to getting that all out and to getting those things to the surface, catalogued and dealt with and then let go. It’s more valuable than traditional therapy because they’ve been there. Almost anything I did in active addiction, my sponsor or my sober circle has done that or worse and they understand. And often have the same roots of baggage that caused them to be in the program. Praying you find the right person soon. I’m always here if you need to talk feel free to message me. Hang in there! Never give up, there is hope and you can do this!

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