Loosid Sober Tip of the Day February 19

Sober Tips
#1

When we look for the good in others, we discover the best in ourselves.

This quote, by Martin Walsh, is one of the most important aspects of living a life of emotional sobriety.

It is very easy to see the fault in others. Finding the good in others requires us to completely remove ourselves from the equation and look at the other person from an objective viewpoint.

When we are born, we operate with no faults, bad intentions, or hidden motivations.

There is no greed or jealousy. We have not been told how we should act nor how others should not act.

Everything we think we know has been taught to us by experience from either what we have heard or seen.

Just for today, remove yourself from the equation and look at the person or persons you currently resent.

Find the good in them. Try to understand why they may act the way they act and do what they do. So much of what we do is done from fear, insecurity and lack of self-esteem.

Remember, everyone started in the same place. Concentrate on the good in those people today.

How did this tip resonate with you? Let us know your thoughts below. There are many people in the Loosid community who need to hear what you have to say.

With Love, Loosid :pray::heart:

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#3

I am going to comment on this one and ask ā€œWhat if there is truly not one thing I find good in said person?ā€ ā€¦ I feel I may not be the only one with this emotion. I can and do understand why this person acts the way they do, but I still do not see any good in them.

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#4

WHEN We SEE IT IS FOURTH AND LONG WE ALWAYS HAVE THE OPTION TO PUNT O2-28-2OO2

#5

In that case I would accept the fact that I do not fully know them, and think of them as someone who is sick, like me.

#6

This is very true for me I have had to remove myself from many things in what comes to me in my life. Because of this the program has taught me how to deal with others in a rational manner. Itā€™s the hardest thing Iā€™ve ever had to do is let others be who they are and like them for what they are and what they do without judgment that doesnā€™t mean that I allow them to walk on me or use me because I am no longer in the equation I can look at them from another hall light of day and night light of the day makes me not fear the night. The night that I speak of is my mind this program has helped me in the 32 years that I have been here and I truly do love how I feel today more than what I was doing with my drinking and drugging career I could not even stand to look at myself in the mirror.

#7

Iā€™m sure this will come up from time to time. I would say that we still should act with a kind and loving persona towards them.
I feel if itā€™s anything else we would lose the opportunity to be of service in the future if this person was to ask for help and want to change. Basically I want to be kind and loving towards all. Plus we should definitely not turn this tool into judgment of of others. This is just a tool to find the good in others which ultimately is a reflection of oneā€™s self. If we find the good in them we see the good in us.
Have a blissfully beautiful day Katie!

#8

There is a saying from the rooms of recovery regarding otherā€™s character defects - ā€œIf you spot it, youā€™ve got itā€. And isnā€™t it true that sometimes the things we donā€™t like in other people are things that we donā€™t like in ourselves. Be kind.

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#9

I truly donā€™t feel I resent ANYONE :grinning::pray:

#10

I believe there is usually someone in our lives like that. I have someone thatā€™s a part of my life cuz heā€™s the ā€˜sperm donorā€™ of my awesome daughter. I didnā€™t have to see him for over 10 years. Then she got married last year and I knew heā€™d be there. My daughter knew it would be hard. So when he approached me I just acknowledged him and then turned and walked away.
Katie, can you just walk away from them? Itā€™s so hard I know. But that person is NOT YOU!
Just be the good person in that situation.
Big big hugs to you!!!:hugs::upside_down_face::pray:t2::heart:

#11

Nobody is 100% good or 100% evil the worst horrible evil person out there has good in them and the most upstanding citizen / saint has evil in them as well. That's not my opinion that's just the way it is

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#12

Oohhh if I could just walk away, I would. In. A. Heartbeat. Unfortunately, in comparison to your situation, I cannot walk away. Iā€™ve made amends with him when it came to me and I will never get that in return from him. Which, I am ok with. Knowing he will never change and will always be the person he is, Iā€™ve come to terms with this.

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#13

Iā€™d agree. And maybe said person does have good somewhere. Itā€™s just not shown and definitely not shown to me. :+1:

#14

Thank goodness it doesnā€™t work the other way! Seeing all the bad in this person would mean Iā€™d be seeing all the bad inside of me. Which, there are flaws yes. But definitely not horrible ones. :joy: Thereā€™s just zero good that I personally cannot see in the person. Which, in return when it comes to me, doesnā€™t match bexause thereā€™s a heck of a lot of good in me. Thanks for your feedback! :raised_hands:

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#15

Youā€™re an amazing person!! You go girl.

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#16

Mayor Marty Walsh?! Amazing!

#17

Thank you for your kind words :innocent:

#19

Welcome :pray:. Kind and loving is all we can do.

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#20

That is all you can do you right now. Work on you and you only! Once that version of yourself is the best it can be, then start making progress forward. Other may say differently, but I tell you what, that is what has worked for me. Focusing on myself and my needs so I can focus greatly on others or other things, has been a true life blessing! You got this mate.

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