Loosid Sober Tip of the Day February 24

Sober Tips
#1

Identify, don’t compare.

When we come into a spiritual program of recovery, many of us will find that we compare our stories with others.

We may feel we have not reached the desperate levels others have or, alternatively, we may look at our stories and think that we have had a much rougher time.

It is not our job to take the inventory of others.

It is very important never to compare stories, but rather identify with the feelings.
Look for the similarities, not the differences.

When we focus on similarities, we will invariably find them.

How did this tip resonate with you? Let us know your thoughts below. There are many people in the Loosid community who need to hear what you have to say.

With Love, Loosid :pray::heart:

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#2
#3

I don't think I compare. If someone is sharing and their story sound a bit much than what I went through,I have compassion on them and it makes me grateful to God that I didn't reach those things in my addiction, as I could have. I would want people to look at my story and thank God for not allowing them to go through that. I want them to use my story as a way of staying clean, saying I don't want to go through that, however if I use that could happen to me.

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#4

A healthy comparison always kept me grateful for Gods grace in a lot of ways but it can be dangerous too. Early in sobriety a girl came to a meeting and her life was so tragically ruined from her point of view because she got a DUI and had to go to court and her parents were mad. It was her first offense, if any kind, and her parents had to come get her son while she was booked and sent home. At the time I remember thinking wow, that was her worst day ever! She is blessed that her bottom was not so low as mine or many of the freinds I’ve made in my AA group. And I hear stories where I’m thankful I was so very blessed to have never lost my kids or had a conviction because by all rights I should have. So the takeaway is that we are all blessed and had just enough to get us where we are. Everyone’s bottom is different because we are different and I think the more stubborn of us must ride our elevator lower to learn the hard lessons. As long as we always remember as they say around here, that elevator is always waiting if we choose to get back on. But it only goes further down. We have to take the stairs up and do it the hard way​:grin: I love this app. Every day inspires and helps me in sone way. It sparks a conversation topic or a personal conversation or uncovers sone new thing I need to work on and it’s amazing how much help it’s been. I can always reach out in chat or listen to a thing as I drive. It’s always here. This group and this app is my favorite and most valuable sober buddy! :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

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#5

I’m guilty! I would compare my life to others before AA and in the beginning. It’s not a good feeling to have. Today I can say that I don’t need to compare. My life is blissfully beautiful just the way God has planned it.
I like to bring up the word YET when I read this tip.
You’re eligible too.
So when we start to compare just remember the Yet… cause your bottom is different then others doesn’t mean you can’t get there.

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#6

I’m also guilty. I have never been in jail so it just made me wonder. But also made me grateful.

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#7

I went out a few weeks ago in a setting where ppl were drinking and I was comparing myself to those people who may have a healthier relationship with alcohol than I. It made me feel like "why can't I be normal, and have a drink like other people?" But I had to remember that my journey is mine alone. No one has had the exact same experience as me, and therefore I must take responsibility for my direction and have self-control. I have set different expectations and boundaries for myself than other people have, in order to save myself from self- destruction, and that is okay.

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#8

My man wants me to hit rock bottom and I don't want to