Loosid Sober Tip of the Day January 30

Sober Tips
#1

Alcoholism and addiction are diseases of isolation.

Yesterday we discussed the importance of building a sober network of 5 people you can connect with each day to provide you with the support you need throughout your recovery journey.

Getting help from others who are working a spiritual program of recovery and building this support system around you is a non-negotiable.

Sadly, far too many of us never ask for help and for that reason, never build a sober network.

We expect to GET but do not dare ASK… and if we don’t ask, we will never receive.

This is because of EGO… a three-letter word that kills alcoholics and addicts by the million.

We have discussed the horrors of the EGO before, but most of us have a built-in forgetter.

Just for today, remind yourself that EVERY person who is now (emotionally) sober had to lower their ego and ask for help.

How did this tip resonate with you? Do you need help?

If you practice a spiritual program of recovery, are you willing to give help?

Let us know your thoughts below. There are many people in the Loosid community who need to hear what you have to say.

With Love, Loosid​:pray::heart:

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#2
#3

Very true statement. !

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#4

Coming up on 20 days sober and doing just fine so far. I don’t appreciate being told that having a support group of a minimum of 5 people is a non negotiable requirement for success. It implies - to me at least - that I’m doomed if I don’t get that lined up. This advice might be true for many, but might stress out others like me, and more stress is the last thing I need staying sober. Different strokes for different folks :blush:

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#5

Nadia, I agree with you…..Several months sober and shooting for 2 people at the moment to integrate into my sobriety. Will add other’s in the future

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#6

Congrats on 20 days... that's awesome!

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#7

Congrats on 20 days! Keep up the good work.
I believe the reason why 5 people is helpful is because of you only had one or two people and called them and they don’t answer the phone or respond to a text you have three more people that you can call. The chances of all five not answering the phone is slim but still possible. I know that this is a we program and the more people I know in the program the better chance I have of staying connected to the center of my fellowship. I see too many people sitting in the back with no support group and next thing they are gone. I do understand that this tip may come off as forceful but as we begin to open our minds and turn off our defense mechanism we become receptive to suggestions and the harsh facts that has been tested longer then I’ve been alive.
Nadia, enjoy today stress free. Let your fears and worry go. You got this. We can help if you ask. I’m here I’m here I’m here.
Have a wonderful day filled with love and peace within.

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#8

Thank you Kevin. Yes this advice is overhanded. It also claims that alcohol addiction is a disease of isolation. I disagree. It’s about coping skills, or lack thereof. I’m by no means saying that asking people for help is bad advice. But there are so many other ways asking for help than having 5 people on speed dial. Posting on loosid for example. Reading a book about sobriety, listening to podcasts, all these things help. If I think I need to talk to people directly I will, but I take issue with the claim that this is a non negotiable requirement for success. Have a great weekend too! :blush:

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#9

I tend to agree. It has to build naturally. I choose wisely and I like privacy. I'd rather jump up and go to church or read or turn on Joel Osteen. And I must say, I have asked some important close people in my life for that reason and I didn't get the impression they had much interest at the time. People are quite limited with their time, family, mentally stretched to say it best. I'll give it time for now.

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#10

Exactly!

#11

Welcome :pray:. Thank you for sharing more tips on how to stay sober and to grow spiritually.

#12

I agree 100%! I am so busy to reach out to 5 people in a day. I am all for getting help and helping others all I can but I tend to overdo it which leads to my relapse. I deal with the public all day so when it’s time to wind down after work I prefer a relaxing workout or time to just reflect.

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#13

I am new to this and I'm struggling but I'm here to reach out for help or someone who can relate so please positive vibes only i took my first step today

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#14

I agree. The only requirement is whatever works for you. Put yourself and your life first.

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#15

So true! We all have to find our own way. Couldn’t have put it any better!

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#16

I am 10 months and 22 days and I'm barely getting to where I'm not afraid to ask for help or to set my boundaries taking one day at a time