Loosid Sober Tip of the Day Jul 08

Sober Tips
#1

When we look for the good in others, we discover the best in ourselves.

This quote, by Martin Walsh, is one of the most important aspects of living a life of emotional sobriety.

It is very easy to see the fault in others. Finding the good in others requires us to completely remove ourselves from the equation and look at the other person from an objective viewpoint.

When we are born, we operate with no faults, bad intentions, or hidden motivations.

There is no greed or jealousy. We have not been told how we should act nor how others should not act.

Everything we think we know has been taught to us by experience from either what we have heard or seen.

Just for today, remove yourself from the equation and look at the person or persons you currently resent.

Find the good in them. Try to understand why they may act the way they act and do what they do. So much of what we do is done from fear, insecurity and lack of self-esteem.

Remember, everyone started in the same place. Concentrate on the good in those people today.

How did this tip resonate with you? Let us know your thoughts below. There are many people in the Loosid community who need to hear what you have to say.

With Love, Loosid :pray::heart:

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#3

This is so true, I've stopped having conversations with my sister because she's a trigger for me because her & my wife don't like each other and my sister constantly talks about my relationship in a negative way, but when I read the message, I thought about my perception of my sister and she's not being hateful she does love me & just trying to look out for me

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#4

Much easier said than done. However I do try to catch myself and do better than the day before.

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#5

Thank you for today’s message…:heart:

#6

I don't know if this resonates with me. There are truly some horrible bootyholes out there. And the ones I resent the most, simply have zero redeeming qualities. They are not worth my positive energy. I'd simply rather not think of them at all. Save myself the trouble, you know?

#7

This resonates with me a lot. I learned to have more patience and understanding for others when I focused more on why they are the way they are or why they’re acting the way they’re acting. I have my reasons as to why I do things that aren’t so good, as do others. Because I’m no saint, I have to have the same grace for others. You never know what a person has gone through. You either go against the grain of the unfair things that happened to you or you go with it and often times in the beginning, people don’t even recognize which direction they’re going in. If someone happens to veer off road, the power of being able to understand and show concern is so impactful. I have clients that have some rough past but in present time they’re trying each day to be better. Why judge when I can help them to continue to do better. Same goes for anyone. To understand does not mean to accept. We can hold people accountable for maladaptive behaviors and still have humility. We can choose to separate ourselves from people and still pray over them. We don’t have to hold hate in our heart as it’s never done anything for us but make us bitter. Grace with boundaries builds the power within ourselves.

#8

I resent no one! For my higher power...A.K.A God, told me I must seek out those who sinned against me forgive them their sins, return to him and only then he will forgive me my sins ...