Loosid Sober Tip of the Day July 08

Sober Tips
#1

Resentment is the #1 offender. It kills more alcoholics and addicts than anything.

We talk about resentment frequently in the daily tips for this very reason. Why? Because repetition is the mother of skill.

In the same way we need to remind ourselves what works, it is equally as powerful to remind ourselves what does not work.

Most of use reading this have a resentment or two in our back pockets. Even if we have done the work to free ourselves of resentments, so many of us hold onto a few as we feel we are not ready to let them go.

Just for today, make a decision to let them go. You are drinking the poison waiting for the other person to suffer. Choose not to suffer today.

How did this tip resonate with you? Let us know your thoughts below. There are many people in the Loosid community who need to hear what you have to say.

With Love, Loosid :pray::heart:

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#2
#3

Yeah, that’s the purpose of the first step to get all that out in the open

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#4

I still suffer from falling into resentment periodically and it is drinking poison because I am the only person that suffers in that process.
When I’m lucky enough to wake up and walk away from it, I feel the hangover just as if I had been drinking and the further away I get from it, the more clarity I feel about my recovery process and the less weight I feel feel I’m caring around.
This enables me to move forward lighter and with a less clouded perspective.
But to get there, I need to do the work and remain Honest enough to accept that I am holding resentment and that it’s the center of my discomfort; Open to being wrong and needing assistance/guidance moving through this; and Willing to let go of resentment by picking up the phone and calling my sponsor or a friend that might help me move through this instead of calling someone that will support my resentment…because I do know how to do that well and it’s easier than talking to someone who will guide me towards more work.

#5

Resentment and guilt are the hardest for me...harder than quitting addiction almost...

#6

Working on step 4 and it’s amazing how many people places and things I am adding to my list! Great tip!

#7

I have 0 resentment or guilt. Mainly it’s the inability to say “no, not today” - but the message is relevant.

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#8

Come to see that envy is often the thing that causes resentment. It’s truly toxic to feel anger and resentment that someone has something that you want or feel entitled to without putting the work and effort into getting it. It’s very important to be grateful for what you have which is often enough and earn the things you want with your own work. We rarely talk about envy I think because we don’t want to admit we possess it. And character defects are often the way we manipulate to get what we are envious of. To be spiritually fit is to earn things through moral means.