Loosid Sober Tip of the Day Jun 21

Home is not where you live but where they understand you.

So many of us are confused or even frustrated why our friends or loved ones don’t understand why we cannot stop on our self-will alone.

Even more of us buy into what our friends or loved ones tell us about our addiction.

They may say we don’t have enough willpower. They may tell us to just say no.

They may also try to explain to us if they can moderate their drinking, we should be able to do the same. This is 100% incorrect.

Don’t be upset with them. Not even for a minute. Remember, those amongst us no explanation is necessary. Those not amongst us, no explanation is possible.

This is why it is of critical importance to surround yourself with other people who share your common bond. It matters not where we come from.

We may come from a beautiful loving home, or we way come from a place where home was absolute chaos.

Each day, remember that home is not where you live but where they understand you.

Find your home today. Connect with others who understand. Though our experiences may be different, the feelings of isolation are the same.

How did this tip resonate with you? Let us know your thoughts below. There are many people in the Loosid community who need to hear what you have to say.

With Love, Loosid :pray::heart:

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I grew up drinking from like
3y/o. My mom told me my GPA made homemade wine & he did it outta a shack which I remember looking like Albert Einstein's laboratory. I remember him saying, take a taste of this or that. And I remember bc I would go pick the blackberries, figs & climb the apple & peach trees. It was strong like liquor. She said I would go n2 the house & say, GPA gv me Kool aid. They thought it was funny but that's what started me drinking. My parents always had liquor under the kitchen sink cabinet. I would go & drink when they were arguing & I would start a fire in the kitchen trash can when they got 2 loud or violent. I'm 47 now. I've been drinking since 3. A sip or glass here & there bc I observed that's what the adults did 2 celebrate and/or daily drinking beer. They dulled/numb their problems whether it was bc of grief or otherwise so that's what I've done. Even when I was in the military, I kept seeking help 2 deal with the depression I was feeling when the whole time apparently I had Bipolar Disorder. But it took the military 12yrs 2 diagnose me bc their time limit with patients was 15-20mins. It just took one Dr 2 tk the time 2 actually truly listen 2 what was really going on with me. And said what depression meds hv u taken & y did u not continue takin them & I told him. He said u need 2 go 2 the mental health clinic & get screened but then the psychiatrist was like take ur meds u have a serious disorder when I tried 2 tell him the meds were 2 strong & asked him what kinda books I could read 2 learn what it was & how 2 manage it. So I voluntarily asked my primary care Dr 2 medically board me out so I could get real help. Of course I went thru denial & all that. Taking the meds & not. Going 2 talk therapy then stopping. But I hv finally come 2 the realization that I have 2 do a LOT of work 2 be stable so I can not only help myself but help other ppl. I've been told I need 2 blog & write a book & be a comedian. So LOTSA work ahead but I gotta make all the changes 2 be happy but I'm scared bc every time I got stable, happy & my finances in order, Ive always got triggered by something then bk unstable. But here I am trying 2 be the strong woman I know I can be so I can help others. Just need 2 find the strength 2 do so bc I'm so tired of being strong. I'm totally exhausted so I'm trying 2 find the reason 2 plainly just live & be the happy, go lucky, sunshine EV1 needs. Yes I've had some VERY dark times, my mind has gone 2 some Very dark places but here I am still trying. 96% of ppl with bipolar disorder attempt/commit suicide eventually but here I still am.

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