Loosid Sober Tip of the Day June 11

Sober Tips
#1

We often think we are only responsible for our actions.

Remember, at any time, we are responsible for three things: Our actions, our reactions and our inactions.

Ironically, inaction is often the most powerful.

This may mean restraint of pen and tongue by not sending that nasty text, email or phone response to someone who hurt you.

It may also mean sitting quietly with yourself and observing your thoughts and settling your mind.

Actions and reactions are very powerful as well.

Write down your actions, reactions and inactions from the last day. Then take an inventory to see what inactions were not useful and should have been acted upon.

Do the same for actions and reactions. You will get better each day. It just takes a bit of practice.

How did this tip resonate with you? Let us know your thoughts below. There are many people in the Loosid community who need to hear what you have to say.

With Love, Loosid :pray::heart:

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Kate!!! That is exactly how I am! If you retaliate to how I approached you then I’ll retaliate back and that’s where the harm starts from me. I love it when I can see the other person’s fear and resentment. This happened tome the other day. I hired this sheetmetal fabricator to make and install some metal. I couldn’t be at the job while he was installing them. I went to the job later that day and the metal wasn’t exactly as I had envisioned. I got upset as that’s my normal reaction. I then continued my day. On my way home I called the sheetmetal guy. I calmly explain to him what I was looking for. He then got mad and vomited his fears and anger out. He was angry cause he didn’t get the gutter job and had built up this fear of not getting paid for the little job I asked him to do before he even sent me an invoice. Using the steps in practice I was able to diffuse the situation by letting him get it out and then calmly letting him know that he will be paid for the work he has done, as for my intentions I was simply trying to explain to him what it is that I’m looking for… he then apologized for his actions. Because of AA I was able to see the fear and why he was angry. It wasn’t about me or what I said. It was about what he didn’t get and how he justified his action. Retaliation is just about 99% of what happens when we don’t get what we want or are angry at someone or something.

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#5

Wow! That really gives u something to think about and some serious internalizing. True dis!

#6

Pause, think then act!

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#7

Reaction vs response, to me is simply have, hold and gift other with a simple yet powerful gift given freely by god, GRACE.

#8

I have a hard time not reacting to some people.. my brother and sister live next door.. they’re both addicts and never have anything nice to say.. it’s all about them.. my sister lost both legs from shooting up between her toes.. and now I do what I can.. but sometimes it’s hard.. she bitches about everything and it’s always someone else’s fault.. I do all the grocery shopping and paying bills .. making sure she has what she needs.. and it’s never appreciated and never a thank you.. the more I do the more that’s expected.. I try really hard to breathe before I act.. or say anything.. I stay by myself and try to stay away from them.. I get up in the morning and there’s always a text or my phone is ringing.. I know God has a plan.. I just wish it were away from here..

#10

Thank you Kate :pray: