Loosid Sober Tip of the Day June 14

Sober Tips
#1

We don’t know what we don’t know.

Much like anyone who does anything for the first time, everyone comes into recovery knowing the same thing. Nothing.

  1. We have no experience of what it is like to be sober.
  2. We have no experience on what it takes to get (emotionally) sober.
  3. We don’t know what it’s like to stay sober.

The next 3 days are going to concentrate on these 3 aspects of sobriety.

If you are starting your journey, you have not experienced any of these 3 parts of sobriety.

If you have been sober a while, while this may not be new to you, it is equally as important as the people with the strongest recovery programs know that when we find ourselves ‘off the beam’, we need to go back to the very basics that got us sober in the first place.

It is equally as important to remember what it felt like to be sober for the first time.

So what does it feel like to be sober?

Being sober for the first time may feel very strange. This is because we are living life on life’s terms for the first time. We used to live on alcohol’s terms, or whatever our drug of choice was.

We feel the pain without numbing it. We feel the joy without trying to accelerate it. This can be very uncomfortable at first.

Here’s the good news… the ‘getting sober’ part will make you feel better than you ever imagined. It’s called recovery.

Tomorrow we will discuss getting sober, which must happen in order for us accomplish the third part… staying sober.

If you are experiencing ‘being sober’ for the first time, know that it is completely normal to feel discomfort. You are in the right place.

Remember, we avoid discomfort at all cost but we are avoiding the very thing that will set us free

How did this tip resonate with you? Are you sober for the first time? Have you started your recovery journey? Have you been in recovery a while and have some tips to share? There are many people in the Loosid community who need to hear what you have to say.

With Love, Loosid :pray::heart:

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#2
#3

Good information.

#4

This is what haunts me the most since I've been sober:
Now I'm sober, I can see in hindsight how sometimes my judgement was so clouded, it's like looking at someone else who is completely insane or down right stupid and doesn't even try to justify the reasoning or motive. Tbh, it's easier said than done, to find it in my heart to forgive myself for some of the things I've said and done, and I do know that we are our own worse critics.
However, I few positive things I try my best to dwell on, that is, God is a loving, merciful, and forgiving God, and He knows all things even before they occur, and I'm so disgusted with some of the horrible things I've done, it makes me sick to think about getting drunk again just to do stupid, mindless, insane, stuff!

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#5

Right

#6

My attention span has suffered greatly I have realized, now that I am trying to get sober it is difficult to get started. I would always have to drink or get high before I did anything, now before I do any tasks I’m checking my phone or smoking a cigarette trying to find someway of distracting myself from actually getting started. One day at a time things will get easier

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#7

Thanks for sharing that Michael. It made me realize I am doing the same thing. Wow
Such a journey! I feel like a baby! Learning how to deal with everything on a new level...

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#8

Well said Anita and so true!

#9

Thanks Jenn

#10

Nicely said, I agree with you

#11

Thank you Dylan

#12

Life on Life’s terms! Daily!

#13

I had the gift of desperation when I came into sobriety. There was something about being sober that I could do. However I was not emotional sober at all! I was full of anger! Feelings this and feelings that just made my anger even worse.. I kept going to group therapy, meetings such as AA, NA, life ring and records dharma. Also, classes like art and yoga helped as well. These things early on helped plant the seeds that I needed to blossom into the sober man I’ve become today. I’m far from perfect!
In fact yesterday I had to tuck my tail between my legs and flex my tenth step inventory and make an amends to an employee for my actions towards him. Gaining more clarity each day we are sober.

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#15

Your on the right track ! Just keep looking forward🫶

#16

To be sober for the first time feels like your learning everything all over again from interacting with employers to your own family. Its like peeling back the layers of on onion when it comes to your personality if you have been using for a long time. We have an inner self that is essentially hidden when we use substances so we learn to become more transparent in sobriety and get honest with ourselves

#17

Also the discomfort that is felt is actually growth so personally for me I am not in recovery for the first time, I have been in treatment for almost four years going from therapist to doctor and my biggest triggers has been narcissistic abuse that I have been through and seeing how that trauma had made me have a slip or two has been really challenging but I explore it regularly with treatment and won't let someone have influence over me again. Anyway my biggest tips are to have someone that can help you through the triggering moments that are hard, have rules for yourself not to associate with people that use and if people are not willing to be healthy around you it's not worth it to even have contact with them.

#18

So I have started this journey and one thing about it is it's so dependent on what your getting clean from, stimulants and depressants really affect the nervous system so it's like being on a little rollercoaster and also the pink cloud is real!! You may feel on top of the world for weeks and that's where you gotta be careful with overconfidence...after the 90 days things really get more evened out with being at baseline. Really our bodies just want to be at an equilibrium or reach homeostasis and the longer your clean the better the brain will create those new neurol pathways

#19

I totally agree with you and I’m going through the same exact thing myself.