Loosid Sober Tip of the Day May 22

D -E -N- I -A -L

Don't Even Notice I Am Lying.

So many of us take such a long time to enter recovery because we are in denial. The pain of getting honest with ourselves seems too much to handle and so we lie to ourselves.

Because of this, our disease progresses until we either die or reach such a level of pain that we get the gift of desperation to reach out and ask for help.

It is important to understand that everything in life worth anything requires work.

The first part of any work is an honest assessment of where we are and where we want to go.

It is also important to look at what we have done wrong in order that we can recognize those mistakes, so we don’t make them again.

We make amends for the mistakes we have done to free ourselves from our wrongdoings (more on that tomorrow).

Just for today, wherever you are, make a commitment to get honest with yourself.

If you are not sober, do you need to be? Write down all the things you have done when you were not sober that you feel were inappropriate. This will give you something to look at on paper.

If you are in recovery, are there things you are doing that are disconnecting you from your recovery? If so, what can you do to get back on a good path?

If you are on a good path, share your experience what helped you move from denial to getting honest with yourself.

There are many people in the Loosid community who need to hear what you have to say.

With Love, Loosid :pray::heart:

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After being in recovery for many years, denial can be the hardest demon to oppose...but the freedom of letting go of that demon is far better to live for...

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I am currently on a thermal detector for alcohol because of a relapse at a bar, got myself into a bit of trouble. However, I had been consistently sober for just over a year and prior to that years of months of sobriety then relapse etc..Anyways this is my incentive that works! We all need what we need :woman_shrugging:

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This message is perfect

For me, the biggest obstacle I found was the D.E.N.I.A.L. that came from other people. Not a single person in my life- not friends, family, coworkers, partners, loved ones…. Nobody ever told me that I had a problem.

Everyone kept assuring me that I was “normal” and my struggles weren’t different or bigger than anyone else’s.

I knew they didn’t feel what I was feeling inside but still I believed them.

Even when I lied thru my teeth about what I was experiencing or the act of self medicating to get thru the experience. I knew I was lying but they never noticed. So I must be fine, I must be “normal”, right?

How could I possibly be an addict if not a single person thought I had a problem?

Yet I am an addict. Recovering, finally. But completely unaware for so long that the pain I was feeling was unnecessary and self-regulated.

It wasn’t until I stopped caring about what others noticed and started only caring about what I noticed (and I mean really caring) that things changed for me.

It’s like Jim Rohn says - “Stand guard at the door of your mind. It doesn’t matter how much someone loves you - if they accidentally put Strychnine in your coffee - you’re going to die.”

:heart::earth_americas::sparkles:
Kristen

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