Loosid Sober Tip of the Day May 29

Sober Tips
#1

Why me vs. Why Me

Many times, people ask to themselves, ‘Why did this happen to me?’ … ‘Why did I have to be an alcoholic (or addict)’ …‘Why can’t I drink?’… Why can I not control my drinking when so many people can?’

It is incredibly important to remember, there are two ways you can approach ‘why me’

There is another side of why me.

‘Why am I so lucky to have the ability to get better when so many others don’t?’

‘Why am I so lucky that I have a disease that is 100% treatable so long as I work a program on a daily basis?’

‘Why was I able to get the gifts of the program while so many other people are sick and suffering.’

‘Why am I so lucky to change my life and live in service to others… and to the same people I used to hurt?’

Choose to pick the right ‘why me’ today. If you are reading this it means you have started your journey to build a beautiful life

How did this tip resonate with you? Let us know your thoughts below. What’s your why me? There are many people in the Loosid community who need to hear what you have to say.

With Love, Loosid :pray::heart:

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#3

Don’t say to yourself, “Why is this happening TO me”; rather, say “Why is this happening FOR me.“

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#4

I totally agree for there is a reason for everything! Every situation negative or positive has a purpose.

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#5

I was all about the “Why” in early recovery. Why did this happen. Why does she hate me? Why did she do what she did to me? Why why why? :joy:
I drove myself nuts with the why! Today I don’t worry about the why’s… I’m here to be of service. That’s the why!
I can’t drink because I’m allergic to alcohol and drugs. Even caffeine and nicotine. I’m even allergic to dairy and nightshade fruits and vegetables… I don’t have to sit in the why today. I’m going to sit in the solution. Be grateful for my life. Help others and continue to inspire. Power of prayer. Love all.

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#6

Besides, being "normal" is boring and you only blend in and go unrecognized. Being somewhat abnormal gives me character! :star_struck:

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#7

I GET to not drink! I GET to be healthy and proud of myself..same wonderful mind set. This positivity focus really works for me! Flip it and it becomes a real gift we’ve been given.

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#8

Definitely can relate to this! I spent too much time trying to figure out what I did to get into my alcoholic life, now with 120+ days sober I have clarity and am focusing on my new life?

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#9

I think that all the time. Why me. This alcoholism hit me fast and hard. Was totally addicted in a matter of 3 years. Crazy huh! I was the half glass person, the designated driver. After my mom died forget about it. I know the good me says “look at you almost 20 months sobriety” then the other Why Me comes back and say “why can’t I go to my favorite restaurant and have my martini”. Thank God the good Why Me is smart enough to continue moving forward. Dying from alcoholism isn’t something I want because I have watched it first hand. Not pretty. Not easy. My dear friend bled out in his car :sob:. Still haunts me. So hope that made sense. One Day At A Time For Me.

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#10

I love the power of prayer :palms_up_together:

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#11

What are nightshade fruits and vegetables?

#12

Awesome :sunglasses:

#13

Potatoes :potato:
Tomatoes :tomato:
Eggplant :eggplant:
Paprika
Sweet and chili peppers :hot_pepper:
Bell peppers 🫑
Pinto beans 🫘
Black beans 🫘
Kidney beans 🫘
Tamarillo
These are the most common foods we eat that are in the nightshade family. Some of us humans have side effects when ingested.
My experience is very very bad bloating and flatulence. After 26 years of discomfort and blaming it on so many other factors I’m now able to eat in peace…

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#14

I’m not an evil guy I was there for our family until bigger problems arose and I failed back to drinking we did get along but when we argued about big this I’ve always let her get her way I never argued back and that’s how it’s started

#15

I know I’ve messed up and I abuse the liquor and drugs like I do now but I was in love

#16

I see. How many days do you have now? You working a program?

#17

I love my kids all of my kids but I fell in dark time I was lost I that’s why I came to Dallas to get away of what’s happening might be hard to understand but I thought my girlfriend cheated with my best freind and I would never get a yes or no from her she always left subjects about infidelity up in the air and over it and I would drink to not think it

#18

I looked for help in New Orleans i had problems with my anxiety speacialy about the sneaking around

#19

For years I didn’t cheat on her I was loyal and I thought she was to me but wasn’t and I didn’t let go I just took up the drinking as time went by I got worst and it made our relationship worst until the point were we couldn’t be around each other with asking each other the same questions about infidelity

#20

I guess I was weak with her cheating I never caught her but I got things told by others and that was enough for me to go knew it was happening butshe never dinied and that why I drank to not really think about it and the smaller fights we had and the drugs made it worst