Loosid Sober Tip of the Day November 15

And the wisdom to know the difference

The last two days we discussed the first two parts of the serenity prayer. If you haven’t had the opportunity to read them, simply tap the back button now to catch up.

Once we are willing to accept the things we cannot change and have the courage to change the things we can, we need to always operate life from one of those two places.

Think of these places as two columns.

Any time we are faced with a perceived challenge or life event (which is always), think about which column the event belongs in.

If it is in the acceptance column, there is no work to be done. It has happened, we have accepted it, and no energy needs to be wasted.

This leaves 100% of our energy available on changing the things we can.

Once we have the wisdom to separate the two, we often find how much extra time we have, once we leave the column on the left alone.

Let’s look at an example of how many of us operate.

We relapse. We CAN’T BELIEVE we relapsed. We obsess over it. We get our ego involved. We get depressed. We are afraid to reach out and tell others, we fear people will judge us…

The list goes on and on and is beyond exhausting.

It is at this very point that we need to STOP. It happened. It’s in the past. Put it in the acceptance column and look to the right.

No one in the history of this planet has ever been able to bring back the past and place it back into the present.

The moment you put it in the left column, you free up 100% of your time on the right column.

What can you do?

You can go to a meeting, a support group, call a friend, reach out to your sober network. Simply put, you have the courage to change, you take action and get back on course.

Today, as you go about your day, move events into both columns. Place what’s necessary on the left in the acceptance column and focus your energy on the right. That’s wisdom.

Then wake up the next day and do the same thing.

How did this tip resonate with you? Let us know your thoughts below. There are many people in the Loosid community who need to hear what you have to say.

With Love, Loosid :pray::heart:

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Great column today! Thx!

So true, that acceptance part is hard, especially if that person is a close to you in your life (or wished they were closer) is hard and if you are overly sensitive & emotional it’s even harder to ignore or react to, boy this really hit “nail on the head for me today” I’m hope & pray I can get stronger physically & mentally so this I have the courage of acceptance and not allow those persons to make me feel the same self-pity and shame that gets in the way of our sobriety! It’s not even fun anymore, my body can’t physically handle it anymore I know if I keep it up on & off I will eventually kill myself, I have way too much to look forward to and to be grateful to allow that to happen to me :pray::pray::heart::heart:

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Love this!:pray::two_hearts:. So true…

It's a challenge with other people in your life. Can you do something about the way groups behave, or do you have to always passively accept other people's behavior? That's where I need the wisdom to know the difference.

Perfect :heart: