Loosid Sober Tip of the Day October 5

Sober Tips
#1

If you don’t go within, you go without.

Getting to know ourselves is easier said than done. For those in recovery, we often realize that before starting on our sober path, we had spent our lives seeking outside validation and tended to focus on the externals.

Whether it was the new car, the house, the fancy watch, nothing seemed to fill that empty hole that resided within us.

In fact, if we look within, we see the more we focused on the externals, the further we distanced ourselves from where we needed to go.

Recovery is an inside job. This requires courage to be open to look within and clean up what is inside that will release us from the pain and set us on a path to freedom and happiness.

Choose to start your work inside each morning. Feel the feelings and take note of the disturbances. In order to fix life’s challenges, we need to know the challenges that exist.

It is only then we can get excited to get to work to release ourselves of what’s blocking us and begin our journey to get to the other side.

How did this tip resonate with you? Let us know your thoughts below. There are many people in the Loosid community who need to hear what you have to say.

With Love, Loosid :pray::heart:

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#2
#3

Difficult for me. I’m an Fitness person. Easier for me to focus on outside. Working on it!

#4

I’m so upset about how my daughter talked down to me. She lives in another state and now isn’t talking to me. How do I move on?

#5

I’m working it.

#6

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#7

So hard to do. I'm used to trying to help everyone else and ignoring who I am and what I need.

#8

Sorry to read a loved one has mistreated you. I am going thru a similar situation, where my boundaries were violated, and when I maintained my boundaries, I got the "silent treatment." So it's ok to feel upset or even angry when my boundaries have been violated and not respected. It's my responsibility to do things that are nice for me to release the anger.

I remind myself that getting the silent treatment is a reaction on their part and not my fault for setting boundaries; I am not responsible for others' emotions nor actions; instead, my responsibility is to be mindful of how I process and behave.

I'm learning to associate with respectful people, and for those that do not respect themselves nor me, I let them go to focus on my self-care. I don't stop loving them, but for some people, I have to care for them from afar to prioritize self-love.

I remind myself is not perfection but progress, and as it says the meditation "feel the feelings and take note of the disturbances. In order to fix life challenges, we need to know the challenges that exist." This is one of the reasons I am grateful just for today; I am not using nor abusing to numb my awareness so I may be able to be conscious of these situations and grow from them.

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#9

Welp, this is about me.

#10

I can so relate. My mother is the Queen of the Silent Treatment. It just shows emotional immaturity on their part. The bottom line is they don’t want to be held accountable for their crummy behavior. The Silent treatment is a way for them to avoid accountability and try to punish you at the same time. And you are so right, that says far more about them then it does the person they are giving the Silent Treatment too.

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#11

I love this :heart:

#12

I can relate to not having any support.. all my family wants is what I can do for them.. they live next door and both junkies.. as long as they aren’t speaking to me they aren’t wanting anything from me

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