Loosid Sober Tip of the Day September 7

Sober Tips
#1

My ego is not my amigo.

Throughout our sober journey, we come to learn the destructive nature of our ego.

In 12 step groups we quite often hear about a program of ego deflation.

Though it can seem weird at first to hear the deflation of ego as a symbol of strength, we have found this to be one of the most important things we learn in our sober journey.

The less ego we have, the more room for humility, and the more humility we have, the greater we aspire to listen, to learn and to grow.

Remember, it’s easy to operate from ego. Humility takes daily practice… but it’s worth it!!!

How did this tip resonate with you? Let us know your thoughts below. There are many people in the Loosid community who need to hear what you have to say.

With Love, Loosid :pray::heart:

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#2
#3

Great reminder..! Thanks.

#4

Thanks, needed to hear this!

#5

Great tip and message for today! Humility is one of the greatest virtues to have.

#6

Ego is what ‘you’ think ‘you project’. Alot of times you’re way off.

#7

That's an interesting interpretation. But the definition of ego is "the part of the mind that mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and a sense of personal identity" Basically the ego is the part of ourselves that regulates our understanding of self. Our identity that we know ourself by. The persona is the self that we show to the world. Ego is often conflated with egomania, which is an inflated or exaggerated sense of self-importance.

#8

For me, the resounding point of recovery is reflecting and adjusting your EGO through learning to be honest with yourself and others . It is synonymous with where our confidence comes from, but it's main purpose it to try and protect us from harm. It's the same thing that reminds us to not put our hand on the hot stove again. Our ego does not differentiate between physical and emotional harm. When I didn't admit my faults, and allowed it to justify my (poor) actions in order to live with the fact that I was drinking at unhealthy and irresponsible levels for 20 long years. I was lying to myself, and I was lying to everyone else in order to protect myself from guilt and shame and lack of priorities due to my drinking. It made me defensive, and it lowered my standards gradually day by day, in order to boost my unhealthy confidence based on ignorance. It stole my healthy confidence to stand for what I believe in. As today is my one year sober, I have realized that I had done way more damage in the past than my memories contained. I am still working hard on making amends with those I have wronged, but as the big book promises, I am amazed before I am halfway done. I am no longer "half the man I used to be", but the best and most honest version of myself to date, making the best choices I can in the moment, and taking things one day at a time. My ego will never be silent. It's intention is to help us survive, but it is up to us to give it honest programming, or it can greatly damage your ability to recover from addiction. Take 100% responsibility for your actions, and healing can begin. I believe that the phrase "Know thyself" means "be aware of the triggers your EGO causes in your life, so you don't make poor choices or ovverreact." Best wishes to everyone out there. Stay strong one day at a time, and be what you were meant to be!

Sam Hadden

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