Anyone else struggle with anniversaries?
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Depends on what the anniversary is of?
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My ten year sober anniversary is coming up. Lol It’s right before Christmas. It also doesn’t help that I hate the holidays. 
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Being sober 10 years makes you feel "struggled"?
Come on now, that's really awesome!
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I just get funky around the anniversary. I will attribute it to the holidays. Better? 
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I have had anniversary anxiety. Like I just want it to be over. My sobriety date is very close to my birthday and Memorial Day so it’s often a 3 day weekend when most everyone I know is celebrating spring with a bbq and a few beers. So I get it.
Regardless of the anxiety, 10 years is a big accomplishment and I hope you find a way to enjoy it.
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Right? Why did we decide to limp this sh*t in with holidays?? 
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I remember my 1st yr anniversary and I was like..yay, but also, man I still have to stay sober..that sucks!
I feel all of my soberversaries have been similar. I wonder if it’s because while it’s a milestone, it’s also a never ending daily choice. It’s not this is the anniversary of the day all my addictions ended. It’s the anniversary that I just became more stubborn than them. Like a yearly reminder that you have made the same hard choice EVERY SINGLE DAY for another year. Which is stinking incredible and also exhausting to reflect on. lol
So, yeah, I get it! lol
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That’s an interesting perspective. 
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I get it, just messing with ya
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You’re so mean to me. 
I never kept track of my sober time to the day. It's is just added stress to me for some reason. The whole focus on the next 24 has worked best in my life. Every new day is day 1!
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Yes.
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I know what you mean!!!
I get squirrelly around my anniversary. My 10yr anniversary is coming up in February. I had to ruin one more Christmas & New years.
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I fee that. When I got sober on the 21st I asked in my meeting, shouldn’t I just go out for new years and have New Year’s Day as my sobriety date?? For some reason they didn’t say yes. Lol 
I don’t get down at all. I reflect a lot. But that’s about it.
I think about how far I’ve come. I don’t have to live in the pain and misery of my active disease. That makes me extremely grateful for the life I have today.
Sobriety is no longer a struggle for me. It is a way of life. A good way of life, without self inflicted wounds. I am forever grateful.
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I am too. And I don’t struggle with the sobriety aspect of things. Only the holidays. I still miss my mom. I’ve recently begun working on a grief workbook. It’s been a long time. I’m afraid the holidays may always be a sad time of year for me, but we will see.
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Congratulations on 10 years. That is fantastic.
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Thanks! 
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I can identify with that.
Counseling is helpful I found.
I was told that the fact that we never know what the future will bring, is a good opportunity to practice gratitude and live in the moment. ODAAT
The way that those we miss would have us do.
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