I never let on how much my husband is a difficult person to live with. He is addicted to porn and spends much of his day watching porn and jerking off. He got fired in July and declared early retirement. I had 13 years of sobriety when I met him in 2018. He was kind, loving and an amazing father to my then 16 year old daughter. So we married very happily. Today and for the past 5 years he is verbally and mentally abusive. Saying his porn and pot addiction are nothing and I’m just a drunk. True but 6 months sobriety again. He gets off on my relapses and uses it to bring me to the point of drinking. So I drank tonight and he says good now you can give me blo**ob.
Giving me the red light to drink thru this degradation.
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This afternoon he proceeded to make me throw away everything in my garage that he thought was not important. Including my stroller from 1969, my beach toys that my daughter loved in the 2000’s, my flower pots and window boxes. To make room for his snow suit (used once a year) his rain suit used never his minnow bucket. Everything I put to the curb was picked up in an hour. I’m so freaking sad😢
Please contact a crisis line in your area for assistance. Or use 988 to connect no matter where you are. They can help you. Listen to you. Give resources for escaping that situation. You aren’t alone. You deserve to not be in that survival mode. They can also direct you to DV shelters of you choose that route. Don’t stay alone with this. I’ve used 988 many times personally when in a crisis.
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Thank you Heather. It all seems so minimal cuz he doesn’t hit.
If it causes you mental and emotional distress. It is valid. Please call them. Sometimes talking to a third party/stranger can make a world of difference. It’s a 24/7 hotline.
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Great advice Heather
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I wish you would've put him at the curb!!!
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This is N O T minimal.
Abuse falls under an umbrella…not just physical, as you probably know.
You should not have to put up with any of this.
Please take Heather’s advice and let us know how you are doing, Barbara.
…everything you relayed, Heather…YES.
This is emotional abuse and then some.
I hope that Barbara will take your advice.
Barbara, you deserve far better.
Reach out immediately. There are state run organizations such as “Safe against Violence “. You are being controlled and manipulated. Please do this immediately