Any tips or tricks for making things right and trying to reconcile my marriage? But also not wear myself too thin so that I jeopardize my recovery!!
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Forgive yourself, First and foremost. You can not move past the mistakes if you do not believe you deserve the forgiveness. Show progress, not tell. Telling or wanting someone to just let it go is unrealistic. Realize it is going to take time to rebuild the trust. It took a long time to break, and knock down the bridge. Gonna take longer to rebuild the foundation. Weekly check ins on feelings, wants, changes. Honest open communication. Set boundaries… BOTH of you, and stick to them. Respect each other’s requests.
It took just about 8 months after I got sober before my wife trusted me again. But just last weekend I had a friend come up and tell me that she has never seen my wife this happy before. It took time, patience, and a honest inward look to get there.
Good luck my man! Hope these tips help you out.
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You’re advice is greatly appreciated, thank you.
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Hey Alexander, thanks for being so open and honest. Marriage is difficult whether you’re in recovery or not! Counseling in mediation is always helpful. First and foremost, you have to focus on your recovery. The moment the stress becomes too much for you to bear, you have to turn away from marriage and focus on your recovery. The best asset you have to relationship as a healthy happy and sober you.
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