Me and my mom aren't getting along at all lately and it really is making it hard not to go out and use I'm almost 6 months clean. I can't afford to get my own place right now . I am paying on some fines I owe will have them paid off in a few months. Anyone got any advice.
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Just had a situation like this happen with me last week, try to get into therapy if you can. Look at the bigger picture youd be throwing it all away!
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You are so right and I tell myself all the time is it worth it and it won't be like this forever I'm either getting my own place or my oldest brother said when him and his wife get a different place to live in Feb I can move in with them and they will help me get a better job and then help me get my own place when I am financially stable
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I'm not sure how old you are, but in my experience gratitude is an action word. I was forced to live with my younger brother and his family early on in sobriety. I felt like an outsider, and I wasn't comfortable there. Mostly because I wasn't comfortable in my own skin, and wasn't because of anything they said or did!! It was suggested to me that I be of maximum service to my family members, and to stay out of their way as much as possible. Just remember that your mother loves you! All of my years of drunken, drugged up behavior made skeptics out of my entire family. It's been almost 2 years of sobriety for me, and I'm still trying to mend those relationships! If I were you, I'd do my best to help in any and every way possible and to remember that it is her house and to be as accommodating and respectful as humanly possible at all times! Congratulations on 6 months, keep it up! 
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She doesn't respect me and I do her that's the problem
I would highly recommend saying this prayer. It has worked for me and for thousands of people like us worldwide. This is from pages 66-67 of our Big Book.
This was our course: We realized that the people who wronged us were perhaps spiritually sick.
Though we did not like their symptoms and the way these disturbed us, they, like ourselves, were sick too. We asked God to help us show them the same tolerance, pity, and patience that we would cheerfully grant a sick friend. When a person offended we said to ourselves, “This is a sick man. How can I be helpful to him? God save me from being angry. Thy will be done."
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THAT is another Excuse to Drink. Make this moment you are in. As the REASON WHY YOU PERSIST and Stay SOBER.. BECAUSE IT IS THE RIGHT THING TO DO..
Congratulations on 6 months! That’s a miracle.
Andrew K is correct in his comments. Your mother is helping you by providing you with a place to stay. The best course is to try to be of maximum service regardless of her attitude. Not what you want to hear but we gain respect by behaving respectfully. None of us behave well when we’re in our disease. It takes time to regain trust and respect.
Talk to your sponsor about it and get to plenty of meetings. It will get better.
I can't get a DL cause of some trouble I got into last year and I don't have a car so I have no ride to meetings and don't have a sponsor
Im guessing that is all a direct result of the drugs. I don’t know what your DOC was, but I’m assuming that it wasn’t delivered to you every single time. You made it happen because that’s what you wanted. If you want sobriety and a better life then figure out how to get to meetings in stead of finding excuses for why you can’t go.
There’s millions of people who need sobriety, but only the ones that want it actually get it.

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Get to a meeting any way possible. When it is your time to say something, say that you can't get to meetings easily. Ask if there is anyone who drives that wouldn't mind picking you up, or if they know of anyone. You will find someone. Call the local AA intergroup office and ask about the list of people willing to give rides to meetings. There are people on that list. If there is a will, there is a way. Find a sponsor. Regardless of your DOC
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One day at a time! Head down pay off bills then get OUT!
I plan on doing that
At least you have a MOM THAT YOU CAN DISAGREE WITH.
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Keep it up
Please remember that resentments are the number one killer of sobriety. You have to learn to accept people and the world as it is. Download the AA/NA meeting guide, do what I did - walk, take busses, beg for rides and get to as many meetings as possible. Meet sober women who have been in your shoes and who are willing and able to help you. This is a WE program, and you are not alone!!
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Years of debauchery made my entire family skeptical of my sobriety. I am going on 2 years, and I still am in the process of rebuilding my life. I put and continue to put my sobriety over everything, including my children because without that everything else in my life crumbles!! Remember that you are blessed to have a mother who still loves you enough to allow you to live with her. My father refused me when I begged him to live with him, when I was evicted and put out on the streets. That was exactly what I needed though. I had to claw my way back to life, one day at a time. I now have my dream job, an apartment and stable housing, a truck which I can legally operate and one that is legally registered and insured (new for me lol) and it is all thanks to God, and a direct result of putting God, AA, and service to my fellow sick and suffering addicts/alcoholics first.
At this moment you are most important. Please don’t give up on yourself.
This is something I have issues with too. I’m just moving back home and have bumped heads a lot with my mom. But I’ve found that when I am honest with her and how she makes me feel it helps a lot. Cause a lot of time she doesn’t realize what’s she is doing wrong or how she is triggering me. Also when I am in a mood I’ve learned I have to get out and go to a meeting. They really help me just get out all my emotions and not have to worry about feed back but just being able to vent. I know you can make it. One day at a time. Maybe journal also.
Keep moving forward..as the great poet (Jelly Roll) The windshield is bigger than the rear view mirror for a reason…look ahead not behind
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