Although I’m following and working the steps.. there’s only so much good coming out of it for me mentally.. I feel like I’m screaming inside my head and going up and down in my moods. I know it must be my brain readjusting chemically.. I just don’t know what to do to counteract the multiple negative thoughts I’m having, and it’s coming out through my character affecting my relationships and my work. S.O.S.
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You are a month in… give it a bit. You are correct, your brain is rewiring it’s self. The same thing happened to me when I first got sober. I had a month or two when it felt like nothing would go right. I tried listening to meditation music, sitting quietly for 5 minutes an hour and just repeating the serenity prayer over and over… just know this too will pass. Keep working the steps, read the big book, get a 12 and 12 and read the step you are on over and over. The thoughts and feelings will level out. Be patient with yourself. You have been dragged through he!l and are fighting to stand again. You got this man.
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Luckily I have been doing the right things then!! Thanks brother, I hope it’ll hurry and pass 
because it sucksssss and it’s getting stronger without having someone to talk to about it
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Talk to your sponsor, or find a sober buddy to check in with daily. My first three months I called my sponsor every day to just check in. Even if I didn’t have anything new to talk about. It helped me to learn it was ok to express what I was feeling and have those feelings validated.. even when they were ridiculous and I was all on my own head. My sponsor also had no problem calling me on my BS so that also helped me.
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I feel like a burden though.. I haaate sharing the specifics with people and yes, I’m horrible with it too. I will reach out to him right now actually because I need to get over that.
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I remember that in my first month I was really irritable and somewhat impatient but it passed now that my brain and body are adjusting. I just passed 3 months and am calmer now than I can ever remember. Just hang in there and where you are right now will pass. Just remember, your mind and body are readjusting.
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Thank you and I’m really looking forward to it!!! It’s the self sabotage that’s making it worse. It’s so ugly!!!!!
That my friend is progress! Well done! It’s a marathon not a sprint. Little steps lead to big ole leaps!
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I bet no matter how poorly you acted on your path to sobriety it pales into comparison to what you were like drunk. The only difference is that when we're sober we are no longer the self centered narcissist that we were. I guarantee if you poll the loved ones around you they'll take the bad days sober over the bad drunk days.
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That’s so deep…… and so so true. Although I still carry some of those traits, I still want this change in character. You’re so so right about that first statement but it’s weird that I thought the same at one point and it felt like it was stripped from said loved one’s because of the way I still think and do things. Jesus, this is so complicated for them to understand if they’re not like us.?
A few of my family members went to Al-Anon which helped them understand a bit. But, a majority of people don't see alcoholism as a disease and rather a burden to society. We're damned when we're drunk and damned for the shambles we left when we sober up.
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Something that helps me is I Always replays the neg thought with a positive thought immediately. Don’t stop doing this it takes practice, it will change your mindset, then you will be doing it without thinking before you know it. I have an app that sends me affirmation throughout the day and this helps me stay positive and not become negative throughout the day.
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I agree! Last I went two years but I never worked the steps to really get to know myself. So people like you saying these things are simple to them but it’s gold for us. We can’t understand their side the way they can’t understand ours. It’s madness! Lol
Could you please share this app? I’m mostly reading articles daily which helps me. Plus the Loosid’s daily sober tip 
This is why steps 8,9,10 are so important.
Ultimately, we can only control so much and others react, accept, forgive at different speeds.
My brain did the same things for the 1st month or so. I tried to rush thru getting better, and that didn't work. Wish I could explain it how it happened, but everything just started falling into place...I'm very grateful that I stuck what seemed like a hopeless situation out...I think you're going to be alright, just stick with it. Keep doing what you're doing
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I’m trying to rush it too 
just to fall flat on my face. Mark said it perfectly that I’m trying to fight to stand back up. I’m getting there, just wish I was more patient! Not like I really have a choice. Thanks for acknowledging me bubba, I’m needing to listen to y’all to get a better grasp on the time frame.
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Well listening to you helps me more than you know. It reminds me that I never want to go thru it again. We're all in the same boat and I'm enjoying the ride. I'm sure you will too 
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Everything you're feeling is normal. You are starting to feel all over again. If you give time, time everything will balance itself out. Incidentally, I see that you are from Amarillo, Texas.
I live in Ohio these days but I got sober the first time in 2002 in Amarillo. Got sober at Managed Care in Lubbock and starting going to meetings mostly at Hobbs Plaza group. That was December 11th of 2002.
Our heads are like a squirrel cage in the beginning. But I promise you it does get better. But the results you get are only conducive to the action that you put into your program.
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Especially at first I was like that too and someone said something about “alcoholics are always in a hurry going somewhere.” Every once in awhile I would get hyper waiting for someone to come out to go somewhere and I was prancing. When we got wherever it was I would do the same thing to go back home. So I kept thinking about that statement “always going somewhere.” And it was just to the convenience store.