Monthly Depression

Struggling Help
#1

“All I do is work and sleep”

“But baby I took you out to dinner tonight”

“That was only an hour”

I actually said that to my husband.

I find myself catastrophizing, ungrateful, and really down. My sleep is all over the place. And my perception is so negative right now. I cried all morning yesterday. All night the day before. I feel depressed.

Sobriety isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution. You’ll have to feel your feelings. And sometimes that sucks.

My husband tries to remind me that it’s “just my period” or that “it’ll pass” to get me to calm down. But this is never ending. I’ll feel better for a bit, but every month the wind is knocked out of my sails again, no matter what.

This is unrelated to sobriety. I don’t even want to drink honestly.

But ladies, how do u manage to show up for life every month when you feel so unstable? What am I doing wrong? Does it end with menopause? Does it ever go away?

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#2

Going through my own journey I was taught a simple fact about me and on this journey of sobriety.

Pain is inevitable misery is optional.
Which isn’t me disregarding your struggles.

As each day pasts when you don’t use your “solution” which for me was alcohol you have these emotions come that may not be “normal to you “ but they are inside many of us.

I like to numb and physically be there but my mind is “over there or yester year “

Getting sober on my journey I was also taught that you should cry and acknowledge your emotions and then give them to a power greater than yourself.

I don’t have a period that comes or menopause coming to my horizon but I am confident in saying that men and women or people a like have their trials which makes your triumph greater.

In my journey I was also taught that we are spiritual beings having a human experience.

You’re not the only person who has mood shifts per month because I do as well.

Praying you get through it and other women support you who can relate more than I can.

When in doubt give a shout.

#3

What is missing for you? Is it hope. I f you didn’t have this problem what would you be doing that you aren’t doing presently? What helped you before if you got through a similar time in your life? Time takes time. I’m sorry I don’t have your answer but I believe you do. It’s the answer within. And the journey you take back to your self will be the most magnificent journey you’ll ever take.

#4

Fellas, shut up.

She's asking the ladies. You're not equipped.

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#5

I was just responding to her post ... lol

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#6

Proceed.

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#7

I experience those wicked spells often and tend to be a weee bit more intense and extreme when Flo decides to show up for the war. Life is a neverending battle & still goes on so all we can do is be prepared. In moments of ungratefulness, I pause and observe. Ruminate on where what when and how's of my current present. Helps me re-center myself. In addition, imagine you are Queen Daenerys and your emotions make up your council. You sit and listen to each and every one them and acknowledge they are there and you hear them. After a brief discussion, strategize to protect your "kingdom". Ultimately you have the final say on how to counter attack for what is headed your way. Yes, I know I make such odd analogies but hey works for me. & I hope that kind of helps you in figuring how to better manage these expected feelings as we all know she shows up like clockwork. Hopefully unless planned. Lol :relaxed:

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#8

How am I doing so far.

#9

On a scale of one ten

#10

I’d say about an A+

#11

But that’s just my humble opinion.

#12

Blessed are the meek for they shall inherit the earth…

#13

If that’s okay with you.

#14

This question is not lady specific. You say it doesn't have anything to do with sobriety when in fact it does. You're starting to feel all over again and you don't have anything to suppress those feelings with.

It is going to hurt for a while and it's different for everyone. But it gets better and gets better quicker if you have a recovery program in place.

The program of Alcoholics Anonymous was created for alcoholics by alcoholics.

Are you going to any a meetings?
Do you have a sponsor who is taking you through the steps?

We have a question in Alcoholics Anonymous that asks, What do you get when you get a horse thief sober?

A sober horse thief.

You see drinking was but a symptom of our problem. We have to get down to causes and conditions.

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#15

Girl!! I coulda wrote this myself (minus the husband) I'm 44 and feel the EXACT same way

#16

You could have PMDD if it is in sync with your cycle. I would talk to your obgyn and/or your pcp about this. There may be options to help you go through this.

#17

You tell ‘em girl!! :joy:

#18

Oh wow I think I have this!!!! Thank you for this comment. I will look into this with my docs.

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#19

The hormone roller coaster is real and normal! Get an app to track your cycle and start paying attention to when your mood dips and rises. This can help you plan and predict when you’ll need extra self care. For me, I get extremely negative and moody about 5 days before I bleed. I take a supplement called Moon Balance by Yoursuper the week of my period which really helps me calm down. I also found that when I’m eating clean I have much easier time with cramps. I have a friend who teaches tracking and understanding womens reproductive cycles, I can get you in touch if you’d like further info from a sweet knowledgeable person.

#20

:heart::sparkles: