Morning. So I have been sober, and clean for a long time. However, now it's living with someone that doesn't seem to want to get clean. I'm at a lost. We stopped doing things together cause of the lies and more lies. They don't want to take advice from, well, me. Anyways that's my post. I'm getting tired of waiting, not sure he even wants to change
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I just downloaded this app and yours is the first post I'm seeing. Congratulations on your sober journey:) I'm sorry about the person you live with and care about.. it can make it a lot harder to stay focused when someone living with you isn't on board for themself. This week I've had to distance big time from a very good friend who I spent every single day with because they won't try to be healthier with me or for himself. It sucked when others distanced from me because I drank too often but I totally understood and respected it. Such hard decisions to make. But there's been time and communication to figure it out, I'm sure. Do what you need to do to stay focused on your healthier journey. I'm sorry if this didn't help, I just wanted to share some support and let you know you're heard and understood
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It's difficult when you're in a relationship with someone who drinks or uses.... if you get in an argument... they have an escape... and you have to sit there and feel everything... choose to surround yourself with like-minded people so you can continue growing in your recovery
If you're serious about your sobriety, you'll do anything needed to achieve that goal. Which includes distancing from people who don't follow your new standards. Just think, you did whatever needed to get your drug of choice, reverse that for anything needed for absolute sobriety.
Focus on your journey, DO NOT give advice , they have to find their own way . I have been sober 1 year , My BF said to me = you have changed ( in negative way) I said that’s because the blinders are off , IE. tequila
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