Thank you Richard.
Oh girl!! I’m going through a very similar situation!! And I am being blamed for his relapse!! I know he just needs to blame someone! I pray you’re guy gets the help he needs. I have learned that sometimes love just isn’t enough, especially when it’s life or death!!!
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It’s always easier to point the finger than accept responsibility. Anyone who wants to blame their relapse on another person is not dealing with the root issue. Time to walk away from the dumpster fire 
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This may not be a suggestion, but more of an affirmation of something you probably already know within...
He's not the one.
If hes struggling with addiction, I'm empathetic to that. But if he's still in the phase of treating you like garbage and then telling you that you're the reason he acts the way he does when he's treating you like garbage - then rehab isn't going to help. He's got far more than "addiction" to sort out and unless you're an unbiased intensive psycho therapist, then you are of no value to helping him get over the hump. The only thing you can manage to salvage at this point is your sobriety and sanity, which are two things he should be helping you protect, not helping to destroy. A lot of people will tell you to extend grace and compassion. But I will be the one to tell you that you can extend those things from a safe distance while he goes his own direction in life. If it's meant to be, he'll sort his life out on his own time and find his way back. Hopefully by then you'll have grown enough to realize you deserve better.
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Good for you. Leaning into vulnerability, being authentic, it’s the greatest human strength. You got this.
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Very articulate. Better stated that all the jumbled thoughts in my head. I choose my sobriety and sanity over this dumpster fire.
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Thank you Brandon 
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Agreed
Please check some Al-anon meetings in your area it's for us that have relationships with the alcoholic the mental abuse your experiencing it'll help you tremendously
440 308 9021 if you want to text chat
We over come many types of addictions once the drug of choice is surrendered to your bank wasn't focused on you as you can see now,sorry that happened to you
Nick is right
I'll tell you what to make of all this.
He is a boyfriend not a spouse. Word to the wise; this man is obviously not ready to get sober and stay sober yet. You would be very wise to let him go and let him find his own way. Trust me when I tell you that I have seen this many, many times. Sooner or later you'll end up out there with him.
You may think that you are the exception to this but you're not!
And he cheated on you??
I'm sorry dear but there's no way to sugarcoat this. If somebody cheats on you once I guarantee you they will do it again.
Dump him and protect your sobriety!
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All very true statements. I dumped him, blocked him, and have moved on.
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Sorry to hear this , stay strong … and keep doing the work … everything will fall into place
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Yes sir. I moved all my stuff out, took the cats, blocked him, and am looking forward. Thank you
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Good ! U deserve to be happy !!
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Smart Girl!
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