My divorce is going to be finalized tomorrow and I’m fighting hard right now to stay sober and no give up 5 months of hard work. Everything I loved for the last 5 years is now gone and I’m fighting to see the purpose anymore in anything
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Alcohol will just make you feel more irritable and depressed.
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Don’t do it, don’t risk public disgrace, you’re strong!
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I feel for you brother. Finding our purpose is a quest I think. Is there something new or old you could pour purpose into, sober? You're not alone.
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Stay sober, get through it, make new loves.
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There is purpose. Allow yourself to feel these emotions and process them. The bottle will just put you another step back. Heads up!
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Thank you so much guys. I greatly appreciate the words
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you got this! don’t give up. you are worth it and you deserve to be sober 
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Thank you so much!!!
Stay strong brother. Your worth is not determined by how badly women treat you.
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Do you make meetings? There is an incredible amount of support just waiting for you out there. And it's free!
I went through a divorce about 3 years ago from a marriage that was about 4 years long. I couldn’t stay sober through it and I couldn’t even complete my assignments in medical school. You may not see purpose right now (I certainly didn’t), but staying sober through it will be an experience of strength to pass on to the newcomer. I guarantee you that you are not alone in this
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I'm in the same boat, brother. It's hard for sure, but drinking won't change the reality of the situation it will only worsen your position. It's all about you now buddy. Take care of you and take it one day at a time.
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I relapsed because of facing my ex in court. He went to prison I havent finalized the divorce. I needed a support person. Maybe you can find a support person. Do you have a sponsor that might be with you this day? I hate my relapse. I'm just two days out from it. It made nothing better and I definitely didnt get the escape I wanted. Huge mistake. I threw away 79 days.
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Whatever you're going through in your life, it's not bad enough to drink. Don't believe the lie!
People relapse because they believe the lie; that this time, everything will be okay. But it never is, is it?
You have to learn to play the scene forward. If you drink, the feeling that you feel in the beginning is very short-lived and when you wake up you will have more guilt to carry around with you and you will have to start all over again and you will realize that you accomplished absolutely nothing.
I promise you that it does get better one day at a time as long as we don't pick up the first drink. The payoff is tremendous.
I've heard it said that it's 10 mi into the woods and 10 mi back out.
I highly recommend that you start surrounding yourself with others that have been where you are at. Get to some AA meetings and listen to what's being said. A year from now you're going to be seen through a totally different set of lenses. This tough time that you're going through right now will become a part of your story.
You are not the first one that has gone through a divorce in early sobriety and you won't be the last. We can't change others but we can change the way we respond to others.
I'm sorry for what you are losing. An early sobriety we don't really have a good perspective of what's good for us and what's not good for us. Give time, time and eventually everything will make sense and you will experience quality of life if you are doing what is suggested.
Go to meetings, get a sponsor, get into the steps and pray!
And for God sake swallow your pride and pick up the phone and use it to call people who have long term sobriety. It's a great way to help us stay sober.
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Drinking can’t make anything better but it can make everything worse.
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Facts
Stay strong you are worth it!!!
I’m sorry brother. Drinking will for sure make it all worse man. Trust me. I let my divorce and resentments send me down a TERRIBLE path for 8 years. It’s not effing worth it. At all. I wish I had those years back man.
The support has been amazing. Thank you all so much.