My ex from 4 years ago is wanting to see our kids but he doesn't really know our children my 6 year old daughter hasn't seen or called or visited with her father since she was 2 so that's 3 years ago and my son who has level 3 autism he hasn't seen him since he was 6 months and he is now 4 what do I do
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Im a father of 2 Lil girls and there mother gives me a hard time just seeing them and I have to tell you I'm not speaking for all fathers out there but if he is reaching out trying to be a part of his kids life's every one deserves a chance to make things right especially parents not everyone is a professional father or mother and makes mistakes.
He won't even talk directly to me I found out through a friend of mine
Deb, use your discernment and caution. Is baby daddy right in the head? The most important people are the children. In my opinion they should be protected at all costs. If daddy is serious then he should communicate with you and understand your concerns. If he’s not then Fffffffffffffffuckem!!!
Deb, this is tough. Might raise some questions. Protect your kids, especially your son. Im so protective over my grandson who also has autism.
Here’s what I’d think about: Why now? What changed? Why is he going through a friend instead of talking to you directly?What does your instinct say?
If he’s serious about being in their lives, he needs to communicate with you directly, respect your concerns, and probably start slow. If he can’t do tha t, then you have your answer.
Your kids’ safety and stability come first. You as well. Trust yourself
He isn't he was physically, mentally, emotionally and sexually abusive towards me through our 8 year relationship I have reached out to him on Facebook messenger to tell him he needs to talk to me and earn my respect and trust back before anything happens
Thank you I will keep all those questions in mind