My fiancé has end stage heart failure. I feel selfish

I met him in recovery. He has 15 years clean and sober and I have 2 years/3 months tomorrow.
Every night I watch him struggle to breathe as he reaches for me terrified. I’m completely helpless. I don’t know what to do other than be here.
We have had all the hard conversations. Done the paperwork. It’s only a matter of time now and I am frightened for him,..
I am disabled due to more than one illness. When I am stressed it can heighten my pain and symptoms which triggers me. I hide both my pain and the fact that I am totally triggered from him, of course. I have a choice today. I can tattle on myself with my journal or to Loosid. For now, I choose Loosid.
Thanks for this app because I already feel kinda better admitting that I feel triggered at the moment. Yet feel so guilty for feeling triggered. Now do I post or not? Ugh here goes..

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I’m so sorry to hear this. Hopefully he can get some palliative care along with medical treatment. I’m glad u chose to come here for support :heart:

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:pray:t3: sending out prayers to you both

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What a difficult thing to go through. Although you feel helpless, just “being there” is huge. That is often all we can do. Hang in there. Sending positive energy to you both.

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Def post,it makes you feel like people sometimes have it way off,and it isn't fair no,stay strong!!

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Definitely post or send a message I will chat.
I don't know how religious you are but I would talk to a priest, minister or rabbi. I think it will help. They will come to your home if need be.
I will pray for you both :pray::heart:

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Keep posting and reaching out for support. Sending you lots of love :heart:

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You are doing the right thing to the best of your ability..Trust God :pray:

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Oh I’m sorry to read this, if I were in ur situation, I’d have triggers n cravings too! Just remember he’d want u to stay sober, maybe that will help u !!

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I am so sorry for what you are going through, :pleading_face: I hope things get better for you and I’m praying. :palms_up_together:

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Thanks for sharing! Also it’s really great to see other people showing their kindness & care. Ya sometimes life is a real MF! Sorry for such hard times. Sometimes all we can do is be loving & kind. Sending you love & light

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My heart goes out to both of you. I pray to God to give you both comfort and peace. :pray:

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