My girlfriend still uses drugs. She knows I'm getting clean and sobber. I once passed over 6 months sobber and clean but it's getting harder and harder to pass more than 1 or 2 months. We were'nt addicted to the same shits, but it trigger me somehow. Anger, frustration maybe despair, in fact I don't know how I feel cause it's absolutely not my personality or my type to be this way. I keep saying to her to go elswere but it's not too safe for her to do this. I can't let her on her own with all those crackheads who seems happy this way and don't give a shirt to sink her. The problem is that I'm not strong enough to see her getting high 1-2 times a week even tho a year and half ago I was perfectly fine.
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Im struggling with staying away from my partner because she is still using.I told her I will be there for her if she goes to treatment and gets clean we can be together. She calls me sometimes 6 ti.es a day and keeps guiltily me by saying how hurt she is that I won't stand by her now.I m worried she might do something stupid like suicide. I'm so lost for answers right now.Everyone in the program says I'm doing the right thing setting boundries. Why do I feel like I'm failing her for giving up on our relationship. I love her so much I almost want to get us an apartment And try detoxing her myself and helping her to quit.Im so confused
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I once heard a saying while on a plane: "You have to put your oxygen mask on first."
I think it could be used as a metaphor for prioritizing one's own well-being before helping others.
I had a few friends that I had to let go in soberity. Its makes me sad but I have to stay sober
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I think you are the company you keep. If it's a trigger let her know and if she's not willing to stop you already know what you need to do.
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When i walked away from the life i had to not only let go of the drugs and drinking but had to let go of the people holding me back. What you must do is desiderata which to you is more important, à sober life or a relationship that is holding you back
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I was told i had to change people, places and playthings to put sobriety first and stay alive. The disease won't stop until I'm dead.
Sting also said "If you love someone, set them free" a joke yet true for me.
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Make no mistake u are in a tough spot a war between heart and mind sobriety has to be first or all else fails this is a god situation follow his guidance
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It is so hard I truly wish it could be more simple
I keep saying me things like this. I start to believe I try to avoid the pain to leave her. It makes sense
Thank you for your time, and now I think you áre right.
I understand a lot from this
She missed the church to go out, I think this is a sign. We always go to the church, she even is the singing choir. I had a talk pretty serious about it with her yesterday, she did'nt showed again, always telling me: I'll come back later. You're right: a war.
I guess you are right. She indeed want to stop when she realises we can't have the life we wished if she still go that way. I told her yesterday that it's getting harder and harder. She said the worse: if you go out, get me something. That's it. I tried to explain that when she's getting high it's a real fight for me to stay clean and sobber now. I also told her "what if I told you I'm going to use? You'd want to right?" And she just said yes and to me it seems it is without any form of comprehension.
Cut her loose! You gotta save yourself.
Sorry to be so blunt, but the truth always set me free.
I’m here if you want to talk
Remember, she's sick. If she refuses to get clean, you guys are on different paths. I had to let go of the father of my 4 children, and he ended up overdoses
You have to get on your knees and ask God to handle it ....trust that he will.
Every time you start to try to figure it out. Stop and give it back to God.