My kids mother has triggered me again and idk how long I can hold on. The urge is getting stronger by the day. I feel like all my hard work to become a better person and in one fail swoop I’m back to feeling helpless and out of control again …
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I hope you get feeling better soon brother. Life has ups and downs as we both know, but turning to substances when things are wild always make things worse. We can recover, and keep the progress we're making. I believe in you.
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Thank you for the reminder J dog. I really needed that rn
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Conquering these moments are the challenge. Get through this and when you look back after things calm down, you’re going to be so proud and grateful you made it out stronger than before. The old you used during trying times. Not this you, brother 
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As you may, or may not know. The Big BOOK OF A.A. TELLS US THAT WE MUST NOT FOCUS ON THE PROBLEM. But THE SOLUTION! As hard as I know it is for you at this time. But remember, to “ PRAY”. And surrender it all to our higher power. Our greatest thinking availed us nothing. But a set in the fellowship of A.A. and NA!!
I love you!!
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Life on life’s terms. The work you have put in doesn’t just magically disappear because of a struggle. This is just another opportunity to rise above and show YOURSELF you are a better, stronger man because of not using! We can only control our own actions…the serenity prayer legit is all about this. Stay strong brother
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Thank you bro. For real
Thanks bro love you too
I accept the things I can not change and have the courage to change the things I can…
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Just wait it out. It will pass.
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Hey so I’m new here, but first just let me say that I get it, everyday isn’t always fun, but just remember that every single second yes second you stay sober is a WIN!! It’s not always easy.. but you are never alone even when it’s so hard to imagine otherwise.. There is someone out there suffering possibly worse than you!! But sometimes all you need to hear is hey, I know this is hard, I know you feel like giving up, I know you feel hopeless and alone BUT you could have never been prepared for what you have gone through no one could have , but your handling this the best way you know how, you have handled it with grace when others could not have, and look your still here!! And I’m so Very very proud of you!! Just hold your head high, take a deep breath and just try to do it one more day… hope this helps..
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You’ve got this!!!
god created us to survive any weapon that may be formed against us!! Our problem is……. We want to fight the battle alone ( EGO!)
All is well
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Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it. It’s up to us to take responsibility for our thoughts and feelings. Try hitting a men’s meeting. I’m sure you’ll find another man who’s been through something similar.
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Hang on there. You are getting better and for the kids you are getting great.
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Mine was my #1 trigger in ALL aspects of my life. Pure evil towards me.
What I did was for every crappy thought or interaction I had or/with her, I doubled down with amazing ones of my kids. The love for them easily overpowered the contempt for her.
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I just wanted to let you all know that I made it through the storm. I didn’t pick up. I didn’t self destruct. Thank you guys! I’m starting to finally feel like I have a support system. Love you guys!
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Just think if you use, you’re going to do exactly what she thinks you’re going to do, and you won’t get to see your kids. It’s not going to make you feel better. Maybe for a minute. But it will do nothing but make your relationship with your kids worse. Even if you can’t see them right now, the only way that is going to change is by staying sober.
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Glad to hear you made it through. I agree that the serenity prayer applies here. Moving forward Acceptance is the key. Page 417 of the big book fourth edition. Trusting that takes away the power she has to trigger you. Trust your higher power and do the next right thing. What condition is your spiritual condition in?