My mental health is complete shi*t. I tried online therapy which didn't work... I don't have time for regular therapy. I don't know what to even do....
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What are your coping skills currently? I know it appears like what the flute is he asking this for, but it is a good place to start. What are your major stressors?
Going for walks is my only coping skill. And life is the stressor. Everything.
Hey Janie! You’ve got 4 years of sobriety! That’s awesome! Now is the time to grow before it’s too late. I had 20 something years and let it all go because I didn’t do enough to keep the demons away. Get involved in a program before it’s too late. Make some sober friends. Don’t do this all alone like I did. It’s way too lonely! Get plugged into some meetings. Go to some women’s meetings. It’ll change your life. It’s not just the meetings. It’s the meetings after the meetings. It’s the texts and phone calls of support. It’s Tuesday night dinner with the girls. It’s a weekend get away with your sober sisters. There’s a sober life out there waiting for you. Please go find it 
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What are your talents? What do you enjoy doing?
Do you have a qualified Sponsor?
Have you been through the steps?
I have 0 talents. I don't enjoy much at all anymore
No
Have you tried mediation?
Janie, you’ve got 4 years! That’s amazing, congrats. I’m at 2.5 and I’m 50 
. I’m sure you’ve been in the rooms, I believe we all think too much, I know it’s sounds dumb but that’s where so much anxiety, etc… come from. For 30 years I used alcohol and drugs to control that. Now… I deal with it. After white knuckling it for 6 months I started meetings, not for the program (I was six months clean) but for the fellowship, it helped a lot. I also started walking, a lot. My mind would clear and I’d be tired, it worked. Then I got a dog. I was never home alone, had more of a reason to get outside. I’m not gonna lie, my head is still a mess, but I’m working on finding things that help.
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I think maybe you just need some form of engagement that’s new. I don’t know anything and I’m new to this I feel like whenever I’ve challenged myself I did better. You’re probably pretty smart and got a lot going on in your brain. Maybe better to use it before it uses you.
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I did therapy for the first year. Things slowly got better. 3 years clean. I work steps and go to meetings still.
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You can get free therapy from an AA meeting…
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Yeah that doesn't usually work too well
When’s the last time you went to a meeting? I don’t mean to be a pain in the as$, but I really don’t want you to go thru what I went thru. I white knuckled it for years until the loneliness, depression, and resentments got to be too much. I couldn’t come up with any solutions or listen to any suggestions. I just needed to escape! And escape I did! It took me 10 years to finally get back to recovery. I hurt my wife and kids so badly. I almost lost everything! I’m very blessed to have another opportunity, and I wish to help others avoid taking the path that I took. So, if I sound a little cuckoo, please excuse me. Go to AA and find some good people to share your story with. Get back to basics and do 90 meetings in 90 days. I hate to preach this stuff, but you sound like you need it. There are other programs too. It’s just that I only have experience with AA. Either way, you gotta get some help before you mess up a beautiful life that can be yours
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I actually never did AA. I did IOP when I first got sober but I'm kind of considering looking up meeting even though I've been sober 4 years without going to any