My friend and I got sober together. Went through a program and sober living. Got great jobs and got our own apartment. As soon as we had our new found freedom she had started to drink and do mushrooms.
I don’t know what to do.
I do feel the urge to use but it’s just so depressing watching her fall back into that life we fought so hard to get out of.
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Might be time to separate from her if you’re serious about your sobriety
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I second this
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I’m trapped in a lease with her
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If you have to move you can always break your lease and if you talk to your landlord they may be pretty understanding. This literally just happened to a friend of mine and her landlord waived the fee for her to break her lease Bc it wasn’t good for her sobriety to stay where she was. Even if you have to pay a fee, how much is your sobriety and well being worth? Don’t let anyone stand in your way of living a happy and healthy life 
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If you do feel the urge to use do to her , then you are warranted in giving her an ultimatum that she needs to continue on the same path of sobriety or you will have to part ways. Hopefully, you can light a fire under her azz to get back on the right track, but if she continues using you have every right to break the lease, sublet, or whatever. It's your health and future at stake.
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What is the higher price to pay? Giving up sobriety or breaking a lease?
Take her to a meeting
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Don't know if the landlord is going to break the lease and let the responsible sober one go and leave the one spinning back to alcoholism behind. Worth a shot though.
I agree with ya'll. All you can do is be honest with your landlord n tell him the situation. Give the outcome to your higher power.
Speaking from experience, living with someone in the throws of addiction can be difficult. You have to be sure to stay away from that path and it’s tough to have the stuff in the house. But I look at how disgusted I am to watch him when he gets super drunk and out of control and making super bad choices. Just be careful and keep your cup full.
Roll out now. Pay your lease and stay with sober friends….
Thank you. I feel the same way about her
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What you're observing is right. Getting loaded doesn't look good anymore. Stay clean and be a power of example. Don't use no matter what!
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Maybe time to move on because she will get you to drink before you know it. It’s crazy go through all the treatment to just throw it all away. Stay strong you don’t need to do what you roommate does but if temptation is in your face. Not good. Get away. Run.
Suggest she goes bad to a program and if she refuses then u may have to part from her to keep your sobriety and pray for her
I would be looking for a way to break the lease
I know this hard. Assuming you’ve had at-least one conversation about how this puts your sobriety at risk and she is still using, my advice is to do what you can to move on. It’s an unnecessary stressor.
Your journey has to be yours, it's great to have someone to lean on but you have to protect yourself.
Sounds like time to move on.. just pray for her.. if she doesn’t want to help herself.. you have to help you..