My wife and kids are my biggest triggers... Especially

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#1

My wife and kids are my biggest triggers...
Especially my wife.

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#2

Have you been to any AA meetings?

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#3

Ooooh that’s a huge challenge. I found that my AA friends were of great value and support in those days. My wife was buying me gigantic bottles booze and driving me nuts in my early sobriety. I had to 86 her permanently. Thank God we didn’t have children. Either way, my sobriety had to be my number 1 priority in life. Over finance, romance and even family.
I’m here if you want to talk

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#4

I have a boyfriend that drinks too much. I told him I’m having a hard time and I want him to cut back but I don’t think is going to do it!

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#5

Gotta change that perspective brother. Gratitude is a way of life not just something we practice. If I’m truly grateful for everything god sends my way even when it doesn’t make me feel good I’m winning this battle. Stay humble. Be the father and husband that you know you’re capable of. Compassion and empathy brother. We hurt them for so long and we want them to forget that when we get clean. Gotta show em you’re better than you were yesterday.

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#6

Oh that’s a tough one! But I’m going to be straightforward with you. I had to cut all big drinkers out of my life completely. Until I did that, I suffered and life just got harder. It was time for me to close that chapter and move into the next. It was very difficult at first, but then everything got much better and easier. A brand new and awesome life is waiting for you.
I’m here if you want to talk or have any questions

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#7

Might have to cut them lose and focus on your sobriety. Priority number one your recovery it can’t be your wife or kids or job or anything. They are in 2nd place or 3rd because without your recovery and sobriety you don’t get to have healthy loving relationships with X, Y or Z.

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#8

I love AA meetings. Rem
inds me of why I no longer drink

#9

Thanks. I'll keep that in mind. I actions just had to have a conversation with her. She is a little bit more supportive, but she isn't drinking around me anymore

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*actually

#11

I asked my wife to stop
drinking around me altogether. She has been doing a good job of trying...plus she stopped putting alcohol in the house
Just ask him to stop, or maybe it's time to reconsider your priorities

#12

Thank you for the reminder. I have been through this so many times that they were just waiting on me to relapse again. I felt angry towards them but forgetting about how many times I've let them down from alcohol.

#13

Thank you, Danny

#14

TC, I’m praying for everything to work out perfectly for you🙏

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