My wife wants a separation, my father's in the hospital, my brothers life is falling apart, and my cousin who goes to meetings with me has slipped off the wagon. I have almost seven weeks sober and I wish I could feel good about it, but everything else is crumbling and the weight of it all is crushing me. How do we maintain the strength to move forward?
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Casey you know the outcome if you go back…. I hope that helps 
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Same things are happening with me overwhelmed to say the least. I just concentrate on doing the right next thing
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Try to remember that drinking will not solve anything and will likely make things worse. Hang in there.
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Do it for yourself stay on the right path even if others want to take detours
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Does you going back to drinking benefit any of those situations? No sir.
Right now it's time for you to show up and be the best man you can be to each of those people.
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Being there for others is what helps us with recovery? But you have to put your sobriety above everything else! If you don't you could lose everything and not be very useful to the ones who need you right now
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Tell me honestly 1 thing from your list that will get better as a result of you getting drunk.
If you can’t, call your sponsor and go to a meeting.
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Turn to GOD brother and only control what you can control. Praying for you.
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Casey I'm sorry you're going through this. At least sober you can navigate through everything without a hangover, and hopefully turn things for the better. Hang in there brother.
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Your situation sounds deflating. All you can do is your best, and I hope you know that you can handle all of it (one moment at a time) without picking up. Let me know if you need anything !
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I have been through so much sober its insane. I don’t know how I did it but trust you me, I would have not made it through and for sure would not be alive to tell you about it if I gave up.
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If its’ already ridiculously difficult, why ruin all your chances of survival, know what I mean, Be Strong, we’re all here for you if you need to chat, I know I am
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When your knees knock, kneel
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Thank all of you so much, it's been a rough couple of days, but your words have helped.
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Casey this is a classic example of why we lean in on these emotions and learn to feel them with our bodies and mind. Then we get on our knees and ask our higher power for the strength to stay sober and then to be of service to those that need our help. This is probably the biggest lesson in sobriety you’ll face this early on! I’m praying for you my friend. Keep sharing your experiences with us.
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Be the rock of a planet that everyone orbits around and prospers bc of. You'll be surprised at how amazing it feels and keeps you winning your days
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Everything in my life started falling apart in my early days of sobriety as well. You have the strength to overcome this within you. The longer you go the more you have the capacity to handle hard times. I thought everything in my life would go smoothly once I quit drinking but The truth is that what sobriety gives you is the ability to handle what life throws at you.. It makes all the difference. hang in there man, it gets easier. Much peace to you
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No matter what is going on, drinking/using will not make any of it go away or get any better. All that does is make us feel worse about everything.
If you have a HP now would be a good time to lean on him.
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Thanks Jen. I will
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