My wife made her decision to leave me for another guy who is not a addict. I know that my relapses and what I did while high made her decision easier. I am sober today and I’m not going to give in even though it is very tempting to use meth. I am struggling to find motivation to go on with my life.
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You can’t control our change anyone but yourself. My wife left me while sober. We had some serious issues in our home with the adult kids. I was sober, but not actively working in recovery so I wasn’t the greatest to be around.
Now, however, after much work on myself I count it as a blessing. That situation was very bad for ME in many ways. Sounds selfish, but I’m quite sure I would have lost everything if she hadn’t left.
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Stay strong, you can do this. You can only make choices for yourself. Stay clean for you. I was struggling with going on with my life 4 days ago and was the closest I’ve ever come to ending it. You have survived every single thing you thought you wouldn’t and you will survive this too. Your story is not over yet.
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I wish I could see the positive of ending the marriage but all I can see is that I am losing my best friend and the love of my life.
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I’m 7 months past that. I had to look Alec. I had to look at the situation and most importantly MYSELF. I had to be honest. It took time
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I’m currently fighting for my marriage and it’s one of the hardest thing I’m having to do. I can’t imagine the pain you’re feeling. The fear of losing my husband is what’s helping keep me clean. I don’t do meth but I did cocaine and he’s also an addict. Maybe she was brought into your life to help you to become sober now. I’m sorry I know it doesn’t make it any easier. You will get through this. It’s okay to not be okay.
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Hi Alec, my decision to get sober was based on me trying to save my marriage and my job. I fought like heck the first 8 months but I was a mess mentally. I lost the job first and started going to a meeting each day that I didn’t have a job or an outside, away home activity. Meetings help me, I don’t agree with everything AA but I now see how it is helpful. The day after Fathers Day ‘22 is when my wife left. I had just made a year sober. I was devastated. I got in car my to go buy liquor and my car drove itself to the meeting hall instead. My AA friend treated my like family. Those first months were terrible. I quit going to work and almost lost my job. And one day a friend told me that fear is a liar and I didn’t have to believe the lie. A fog lifted from my brain. I started to really see the truth. I saw a quote that said thank you for leaving, I never could have walked away. I can’t explain it but I am now in a place mentally and spiritually that I forgot even existed. I am so glad I didn’t give in. Keep pushing forward and get out of the house. That’s my experience, I hope it helps. I am here to listen if you need to talk.
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Sending strength and hope your way 
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Stay strong and prove her wrong. You got this.
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I relate to this so much I’m in the same situation I just found my husband cheating on me with a girl from his NA meetings he has five years clean and I just feel like my heart was ripped out it hurts so bad I’m so lost
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Alec, it doesn’t seem like it now but it’s going to be ok. Dive deep into the A.A. or NA program. There is a solution.
Remember there is no bad situation that using can’t make worse. Get to lots and lots of meetings and talk about it. If we can talk about it, we can live with it. If you work the steps you will look back on this as an experience that made you better and stronger.
I speak from experience.
ODAAT
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There is also CMA, Crystal meth anonymous. Not everyone knows about it. Or there are things like smart recovery. Not everything has to be 12 steps. The important thing is to not use and get a community. Hugs. Thanks for being vulnerable.
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