Sober and grateful. But partner keeps relapsing and its breaking my heart. Part of me wants to walk away. Part of me wants to see this through and keep trying. All of me continues to pray and take care of myself and my recovery. I am scared and sad.
Any advice out there?
Love yourself and your partner enough not to use together don't allow it to cause you to relapse
Has your partner been to treatment and also PHP and IOP? Then I recommend (Based on personal experience) sober Living for at least 6 months, it’s so easy to relapse after treatment if you go straight back to where you used, a friend sent me this when I was in PHP:
“don't know who needs to hear this, but if you're trying to stay clean and you keep going back and hanging out with old friends, it's probably not going to work. Old keys don't open new doors!” I know it will be difficult for both of you being apart but it’s better than the alternative, remember one day at a time!
Take care of yourself first walk away and lead by example. If they choose to follow they will if not God has something better
You have to put yourself first . It’s so hard for me to say that because I would be your husband in this scenario. My husband has stood beside me for 21 years . I’m 52 days clean and we have never been as in love as we are today . It’s up to you . And you are the one who is going to live the consequences . I may be wrong , but let me know if there is a right . Good bless you and your man . I’ll be praying for y’all.
Oh by the way we have been married for 30 . We also used together.
I'm going through the same thing other then I'm the one who relapsed, I am nothing more then thankful that my wife has stayed with me it gives me the motivation to keep trying to be sober. Again if she gave up on me I believe I would have given up on myself. And probably would of dove so far back I to addiction that I wouldn't be here right now.
I can’t advise you to stay or leave because I don’t know the situation. What I can say is you have to focus on you and your sobriety.
Thank you to those who replied and have sent prayers. I greatly appreciate it!!!
Stay strong! And thank you for sharing your experience.
Hi Jen, I chose sobriety and therefore life - I left a 13 year marriage to the one I love the most - it was the right decision