Need support - Custody of my son

Struggling Help
#1

Today I am finally facing my biggest fear and trigger - my son’s father’s addiction (we aren’t together anymore due to his violence towards me) and how badly it is impacting our shared son. I called my sponsor when I wanted to drink. I am reaching out to other sober friends and wanted to also reach out on here. Despite being almost a year sober, the obsession to numb appears to me. I will have to involve the courts, authorities and make some really tough decisions. Thank you for being there to read this and for any support.

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#2

I have my first custody hearing on Friday, I don’t want to be married to her anymore. She’s using my addiction against me to get full custody. Meanwhile, I am in a sober house (because she was hitting me) I go to 3-5 meetings a week, I provide insurance, pay child support and have a full time job. She works 14 hours a week and she’s a horrible woman, she doesn’t use but there is a lot wrong with her. I’m terrified because I don’t want to lose my kid because I suffer from a disease 🫤

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#3

Thank you for sharing your experience with me. If you are taking steps to be actively sober, which it sounds like you are, then I don’t see how the court won’t give you joint legal custody at the very least. Do you have a place your children can go to live with you part of the time?

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#4

-Trust God
-Clean house
-Help others

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#5

I’m looking now, I have everything in place but it’s Rockland County, NY. They’re a little crazy about the rental process around here. It’s very political and bureaucratic here. :roll_eyes:So it’s taking some time. However, I gave her the place so she didn’t have to move and uproot my kid.

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#6

3rd column step 4 to be exact lol what a nightmare it is haha

#7

I can only suggest you do the foot work and leave the results to your HP. Page 62 Big Book. Last paragraph.

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#8

I went through this too Jack. Same thing. It will work out in time. It's sooo hard and stressful. Keep doing the right thing and stay sober and things will fall into place. I promise!

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#9

Just stay clean so you can handle whatever comes your way

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#10

Thank you Matt

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#11

Thank you for sharing your experience Kelly.

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#12

Very sound advice. Thank you

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#13

Thank you!

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