New here. How do you stop the excuses? I realize we addicts are full of them. My BIGGEST downfall 
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I focus on what In really want in this life. The first few days have a bit of white knuckling resolve, but then I build in small steps positive patterns and now I feel great, sober.
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All humans are full of excuses, it's not special to addicts. It's just what we do to justify and normalize our bĆ¼llshit.
Josh made good points, listen to him. I'm crabby tonight, haha.
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I agree with what was said previously. I donāt know where I am in my recovery Iāve stop making all excuses, but now that it has been a year as I look back, it was baby steps, committed to the work, going to meetings and doing things positive for my mental health that shifted my mindset from āI want a drink becauseā¦ā to āif I took that drink because.. all these things Iāve gained go away and probably more. ā the first days arenāt easy. Having support helps a lot.
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I used to use any excuse I could think of to not go to meetings. Getting honest with myself, staying sober and sharing in meetings quickly got rid of any need for my excuses...Honesty is a huge part of this from the start.
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First step is recognizing when you are making excuses.. my sponsor always tells me to ask myself, would I do it for alcohol? My answer was always yes. So I always ask myself that question when I find myself making up excuses for not going to a meeting, not waking up early, etc.
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I realized that every excuse was really just me lying to myself. And I hate it when other people lie to me, so why would I accept it if I lied to me also? It was a lot easier to handle the sobering honesty (pun kinda intended).
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You get rigorous honesty and change your behaviors. A program of recovery can help guide you. Good luck 
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Thank you all for your feedback, I thought I was gonna buckle but I'm taking those moments and making good choices out of them instead. Wish me luck. I want and need recovery more than anything in my life right now
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Thatās good that you recognize that you are making excuses and are taking responsibility.
Prior to is an explanation, after the fact is an excuse; transition toward living proactively, not reactively. All of our emotions, traumas, and addictions are presented within our mind-body unit to be expressed & laid out on the table, not repressed nor indulged. ļæ¼When a thought wants to come to the surface and become an action, meditate on where that energy is coming from, express it (most people use words to express trapped or misunderstood emotions, others use movement), recognize the emotion/trauma/addiction/energy is only trying to leave, and let the storm pass. Just because something goes on internally does not mean you need to act it out externally. Much like anxiety and depression (that I used to use substances to mask those feelings) are actually just notifications in our bodies of things that happened, are happening, or may happen, if we just sit there with those feelings and acknowledge them without judgement, we can actually learn more about ourselves.
You resolve to make a decision that this is the best choice for you and with the help of others, if needed, stay with it get sober, stay sober and have the life thatās waiting for you.
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Take pride in being ānormalā.. booze and drugs as all of us addicts know is cunning and powerful. Be tough as nails.. talk to everyone.. admit you are powerless.. embrace the suck.
Excuses justify why you've gotten where you are. Being honest with yourself is the only way to make a change. Yes we have all made bad decisions in the past but it is our present desire to make positive change in our lives that set our path moving forward. Congrats on your desire to be sober keep your head up and achieve your goals. You got this.