can someone help me just talk me down please i want to be better and it seems like im just worse and worse thanks
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Do you have a short term goal?
I've struggled, I've relapsed, I've been so ashamed of myself...I hear you. Sometimes recovery is one day at a time, other times it's one hour--even one minute--at a time. Connect with a sponsor or a sober friend. Go for a walk, meditate, recite the third step prayer, find a meeting. Just get outside your head and remember there's strength in community.
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The thing that’s helped me is online aa meetings. Even just being around people that share what they say in the moment makes me feel like it’s not so bad. If they can then I can. We all can. We have it within us. I know you can do it. You truly got this. One day at a time.
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Cravings are real, early on my sobriety journey i felt it, the urge was strong and I was powerless and defenseless from the first drink. That one drink turns into a 1000 which is not enough.
I went to a live in person meeting and learned to do some simple, not necessarily easy things to do to stay sober, one day at a time.
Go to meetings
Cause my hand and ask for help
Get a sponsor, someone who has worked the Steps before me
Get a Big Book and read it, including the preface
Work the Steps with my Sponsor
Be of Service
Help Others
Pray
Meditate
When I tell on myself, which is contrary to my natural tendency, I will be met by someone at the end of the meeting offering to help me right then and there, and they are local.
My hope for you is that you take the courageous step to get into action.
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I feel your pain. I've been there. It does get easier. It all depends on your willingness.
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What has worked for me.
Meetings, prayer, meditation, fellowship with other alcoholics and addicts. The Big Book is an amazing design for life. I highly suggest reading. It works. You are not alone in this I promise. God has put some truly amazing people into my life through AA. I’m still very new to this, but my life has changed so much in a very short period of time. Best of wishes to you.
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How are you doing today?
When we get sober , we experience things that are new to us. When we experience those things it’s hard for us to handle at times. Because they are new to us. You’re learning to be someone different now. Not who you used to be. The one you know so well. Now you don’t so it seems like your struggling. It’s a learning experience. Stay strong and don’t give up on this life you have now. And when you get talked about now. Your talked about the
One that has been through the struggles that will one day have understood and now can teach. With all the help you have been given. To pass on to the others going through what you are going through now. Be proud of yourself and never let go of what you have achieved in your soberiety! Congratulations on all the time you got sober! Love you for posting this about yourself and asking for help. Instead of just going out and using! Congratulations!!!
This is a terrible word for addicts but we need to learn patience 
- we didn’t get sick overnight and we don’t get well that way either
Heyyy! How are you? Send me a dm, k?
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Acacia, welcome! 1st off everyone here is spot on. You can do this and you don’t have to & shouldn’t do it alone!
I was a chronic relapser for too long. Finally I listened, took direction, became a part of the sober community. I’m so glad I did! Life got easier, better and more enjoyable.
Get to meetings early morning before your addictions kick off, get a sponsor and do the 12 steps to the best of your ability.
I’m here if you want to talk.