I definitely secluded myself the first couple of weeks. Now that I’m almost 70 days in I find it hard to do sober things with my not sober friends or party friends. I’m curious if I should join a AA group to find more so we friends? Thought?
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This has been the hardest thing for me as well. I don't do AA, instead I do therapy. I've been sober for 3 years and it's still a little awkward with friends. I care a lot less about being around others while they drink but I feel like my friends struggle with it. They say it does not bother them but my social life is a lot quieter these days. All I can do is control my actions, and those who want to be in my life will choose to do so as well. Just wanted you to know I feel you on this, but continue to prioritize yourself and your health. You are in the process of creating your new normal and hopefully you friends will join you in some way or fashion.
Unfortunately (or fortunately) for me giving up alcohol showed me who my true friends were and who was just a party friend. My social circle has since changed and I surround myself who respect my sobriety.
One thing that has helped me is leading with an idea for getting together. “There’s a great exhibit at the Whitney I’d love to see” or “I haven’t gone bowling in forever, wanna go?” or “Interested in dinner and a late showing of XYZ “ sets the tone, and forces people to either confront the fact that they don’t want to do anything sober with you or will open you and the other person up to a whole new level of friendship.
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Get in AA ASAP. There are lots of good sober connections. For me it has made all the difference. Go until you find a meeting that you like. Network. Do sober things with people. It's a good place.
Congrats on your 70 days ! I don’t have advice on this topic, as I’m kinda newish here, but I hope you find what you need !
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Congrats on 70 days! Find a new group of friends and NEVER surround yourself with people that don’t support your sobriety.
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Congrats on Day 70. Check out AA. It's beneficial to many.
Do anything!? Yes join AA group and be open about it and don't judge those people are all sick together
Yayyyy on 70!!!! That’s freaking awesome 
yes find a support group