Hey all! I’m not only new here, but WAY out of my comfort zone. I have ejected anyone I had falsely considered friends when I got clean. I retained my bf and my daughters (18 & 14) That’s it. I wouldn’t have a collective year and over 40 days and counting now without them, but I need more connection or something. I have noticed loneliness kicking in. I’m a homemaker, I don’t have much going on outside. So here’s my question how does one make friends after 40 nowadays lol???
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Are you going to meetings? They can be such a great community that offer lots of support and friendship!
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I was attending online RD meetings and loved it but I have never gone in person. I keep thinking I should but I’m trying to push myself to go alone since no one will go with me.
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It’s hard. Making friends as an adult really isn’t easy. At least for me. Meetings help, church has also help some. But my sober life is also a slightly lonely one. It took some time, but I’m content now with my small circle and living vicariously through watching from the sidelines. I’ve gotten more involved in the community, talk long walks.
My life is way more solitary than it used to be. But this path makes my life 10 times better.
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It’s definitely hard and scary at first. But when you go in person people get to know your name and say good morning and they’re happy to see you- and in my experience that community is incredible
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What Jessa said…. Surround yourself with likeminded peers. 
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Yeah., I also believe meetings are great., but yes my circle of friends is very small., no boyfriend., no girlfriends…. but it better than when I was using….
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Thank you everyone for your kind words and suggestions. I’m most comfy with recovery dharma but definitely going to make it a goal to attend an in person meeting this week.