new to loosid - curious about your experiences with lapses. ideally my sober date would’ve been Oct13. 2024 but since then ive lapsed on two different occasions so restarted my clean time. I am strauggling with the shame/guilt cycle, hearing “lapses are a part of recovery” felt like a subconscious go to eff up a few times until “i get it” feel free to share your expierences with them or anything really🤍🫶🏼 also, happy new years!
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I'm coming back from a relapse. My original date was 3/21/22 I had 15mo before I messed up & became complacent. Believe me the guilt, shame, & sometimes self loathing can become rather hard to deal with but as long as I don't give up I know I have a chance.
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Thanks for sharing that! Love the simplicity yet hard truth of “as long as I don’t give up I know I have a chance” 
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Hi there, I've been clean Oct 1st 2024. I'm in a sober living environment place for woman. To be honest with you, I'm looking forward to getting my own place when it happens. I like my independence alone time. I'm still grateful for here though.
Larissa I've been sober since December 25, 1988. Due the circumstances around how I got sober I've never relapsed.
Hi Larissa. Lapses do happen. And those feelings of shame and guilt are so hard to ignore. But it will get easier. Be patient with yourself and give yourself grace and understanding. You got this
You can always DM me if you’d like to talk.
Sometimes, relapses are necessary to have a different understanding and perspective this time. Now, just play the tape in your head. If you do this again, then how will I feel initially good, high, or drunk but ultimately, the shame and guilt will outweigh the substance, keeping us clean and sober. After we have a decent amount of clean time, we might think just one time again. Remember, 1 is not enough, and 1000 is too many. One day at a time. I tell my myself that if I make it to midnight by the time i.wake up, it won't feel that bad an urge or bad feeling. #wedorecover