New to sobriety but I have accepted the fact that my relationships with people have been negatively impacted due to my drinking. I believe I have a lot to offer when I am sober but my drinking has lead me to so much shame and regret. A recent breakup due to drinking certainly doesn’t help because this person did see the good in me but unfortunately the drinking won again and now I find myself alone. I love working out and hiking so I will continue to do those things as alcohol is not involved but right now I just have so much pain because I know alcohol has been the cause of 99.99% of my problems. I have to do better.
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It's a journey. Just remember you are enough. You don't need alcohol. I know it's difficult and tempting.
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I got sober last year and fell off again and again. Day 1 here- I lost my relationship for that year too. Stay strong and let’s all help one another!
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We have all been in similar situations because of the demon. Do not let the poison define who you are. You can get back to that person. Be gentle with yourself. And don’t try to rush out and fix everything right away. If you are not in a program I would recommend it. AA helped me. The steps are in order for a reason. Right now you need to worry about right now. Just stay sober in the now. There will be time to deal with all the emotions in time. Good luck man.
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Appreciate the feedback everyone. Now that I’m clean though the anger and frustration I feel for my mistakes is at times overwhelming. I know this will pass with time but I feel a strong need to fix what’s already broken with certain people.
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Just my two cents but don’t rush into it. There is a reason making amends is step 9. In early sobriety we are in no place to truly apologize. Your frustration and anger are proof of that. For now just show people you are doing the best you can, by staying clean. You got this bud. One day at a time.
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Well key is realizing that if it weren’t for alcohol you wouldn’t have had 99.99% of the problems and alcohol was 100% the reason for those! Dude I drank for 30 years and in that 30 years alcohol was involved in every negative problem I had. Without alcohol I’m a pretty nice guy! And I do a lot of good sh!t! You have to remember what alcohol does, so therefore you have to remember the dirty sh!t you did, but you can’t let it make you a prisoner in the present. The past is a lesson, not a sentence! Behave now and live like the best human being you can!!
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It’s too soon to try. Even though you want to it takes time. People still don’t trust you! They’ve heard it before. You just have to show them!
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I’m right there with you. I messed up important relationships because of drinking. I don’t have an answer as far as overcoming the shame and regret. Except that being sober will prevent it from happening again. And that drinking won’t help either way.
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This resonates a lot with me. One thing I’ve noticed in just a few days on here is how so many people have almost the same story, definitely helps me feel like I’m not the only one struggling. Before I joined this I felt like no one else was going through the same stuff so no one understood how I was feeling. Good luck on your sober journey
I’m going through the exact same thing hang in there
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I am also going through this. It’s so hard. I’ve been an anxiety mess after this weekend. It’s always been such a prevalent substance with all of my friends, family and recent break up which is what makes this decision so difficult for me. I used to feel in control.
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