I'm struggling with not just coming back to the rooms after a relapse and after the time I once had, coming back it feels like my brothers and sisters in recovery have forgotten that im once again a Newcomer!! EOA9AÀNven though I once had close to 4 years, I'm not there anymore!! As someone who's been around, we all know that the most important person in the room is the newcomer. It's those of those that have been around for a while responsibility to show them and teach them and be there for them and answer the phone when/if they ask for help.. and I just I'm not being met with that and it almost makes me want to quit and give up on the on 12-step programs.. 100% if this my first time and i ddnt know that freedom behind the program, I would not have gone back..
I’m a retread myself it took me three try’s to get a lil over 26 years
Keep coming back we don't lose what we learned just change our date
Man, I had to switch up my meetings a bit for a similar reason. I think what I've learned is that even when we lose our time, we don't really lose our time. An old timer said, "Be gentle with yourself and grade yourself on a curve. If you've been clean and sober 99% of the time, then you're doing great. But we've got to remember to act as a newcomer, too. Come in with the frame of mind when you first started. Come to a meeting to listen, ask for help desperately, and be willing to do whatever it takes to regain your sanity. Most importantly don't give up before the miracles happens. You'll get back.
I can understand where you're coming from because I'm also coming back from a relapse. Keep fighting, and believing in yourself 
. You can this I believe in you. Never ever give up
Brother, try 90 different meetings in 90 days. That’s how I found meetings I really loved and made great new sober friends.
I was a chronic relapser and defiant to my core! Still am defiant😆
Don’t let your ego/poor me drive you back out. You already know it’s a sh!t show out there!
Welcome BACK! Relapse unfortunately happens, and its a matter of remi ding yourselves that as addicts, sobriety is the ONLY way that works and makes sense.
To do our necessary reflections and move back into what are our "healthy routines" in sobriety. That often includes meetings.
If it were me, I'd set up a date, see if I could get a friend to go, do some yoga 2 hrs before to relieve anxiety and stress and go do the d@mn thang!
AA is a wonderful group. It has helped endless number of people But you know it is not the only help out there. There are many other self help groups. Look around for what else is out there. Hope this helps a little. I distract myself with anything, when those thoughts creep in.
If 12 step isn't working out anymore try non 12 step meeting recovery dharma life ring SMART
Hey glad you're here! How are you feeling?
Thanks for sharing
Well , You should still Attend the meetings it is a selfish program. Maybe they are keeping their distance because they don't want to relapse themselves . Maybe try meetings where you never been
Unless you feel like your gonna relapse like if you know you are share of course if not just listen put the cotton in your mouth if you do that long enough you will hear something you need to help you in your recovery. Try that ok . Hopefully this helped
Hold on, it's worth whatever struggle you have to endure. Try mixing up your meetings. There's lots of good people out there
Welcome back! You definitely have a community here that has your back. You are the most important person and whatever way we can encourage you and inspire you to continue we’re gonna do that. I like the idea of 90 different meetings and 90 days. see which one resonates with you more. We also have a monthly meeting coming up. It will be posted. Hope to see you there.