Hello everyone good morning. The last few months has been a struggle. Being sober has been difficult. Saturday is my first concert I’m going to and doing it sober. Concerts usually is a great for drinks and all the above etc. Its such a challenge because we live in a world where it’s being sober isn’t cool and in order to fit and have friends. It’s definitely a isolation thing but doing activities like getting back in the gym is also good. It’s a struggle everyday . Stay strong, it’s funny how much social life is revolves around cannibis and alcohol or any other drugs. Have a great weekend!
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Word to the wise..
It is way too early for you to be going to places like concerts where there is alcohol in the open. If you hang around a barbershop long enough you're going to get a haircut.
If it's not too late I will back out of it immediately because you're playing with fire especially if you haven't taken on the 12 Steps of AA which were written by alcoholics for alcoholics. They were written to transform us so that obsession to drink will be removed.
The only thing we have to change in our lives is everything. You can have sober friends but it's going to take some time to know how to find them and you're probably not going to find them at a concert.
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Yes and I know you are right . Those thoughts crossed my mind. I did a test one day I went back to a bar I was frequently at to watch some sports . I sat there with regulars and it was weird sitting there drinking a water. But it felt powering to sit there and not drink. I feel the power because it’s just a different and difficult lifestyle without these things and it’s just even more difficult because my favorite activities like concerts always involved drinking . And all the above of course smoking marijuana. I agree with what you said , it’s definitely early and I do have a fear of a relapse again . So yeh cheers , I’m finding activities not involved drinking but it’s really hard
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Drive your own car to the concert make sure you can leave if you want to
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I attended a concert at two months into my recovery. I did okay but there were thoughts of feeling uncomfortable before hand. I approached the bar to order my ridiculously priced soda because I was so thirsty. The bartender was really cool and set me up with free sodas all night!! I guess he had a kind heart for people not drinking alcohol . This lifted my spirits fo shure ! ( pun intended!)
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I believe it is never too soon to engage in activities while maintaining sobriety, as long as you have confidence in your ability to navigate through them. However, it is important to have a well-thought-out plan in place to support yourself if you feel overwhelmed, uncomfortable, or in need of a distraction or an exit strategy.
By preparing yourself with a solid plan, you can ensure that you have the necessary tools and resources to manage challenging situations. Whether it's having a trusted support person to reach out to, identifying healthy coping mechanisms, or establishing a safe environment, these measures will provide you with the reassurance and guidance you may require during difficult moments.
I believe that it’s important that we embark on new experiences without relying on substances.. and it is crucial to face them head-on and conquer them. By setting this as a goal and accepting the challenge, while also having a well-constructed plan to fall back on, you will not only overcome any obstacles but also gain a heightened sense of self-assurance and a stronger connection to your recovery journey. 
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I'm attending my absolute favorite bands concert in June.....it will be my first concert since I quit drinking........
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Get yourself a glass of something non alcoholic that you will enjoy and try to have fun. And the bonus is you will remember everything and you won’t be filled with Shame and
regret
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Do you have a sober buddy to join you? That has the same power to keep you from drinking than to be swayed by those that are drinking. Not drinking is becoming much more respected now. Stay strong and make solid sober connections!
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No actually I don’t haha I realized all my friends are not sober
Sounds like a great time to hit up a meeting and see if anyone there is planning to go
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Oh meeting like AA meeting , yeah idk see what happens
I went to a great death metal show recently, and asked the bartenders to make me a couple interesting drinks with no alcohol in them. They were delicious, I really enjoyed the show, and no poison got in me.
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Hey Brian! I have a sober friend in JAXX (how he says it). I don’t know how guy friend setup goes, but he has mentioned that it’s difficult. Maybe I can help? If not happy to be an ear. I have no sober friends as well, so I absolutely relate
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Right on I agree life is different , where are you from , and thanks for the input ! Yes is ok it means a lot of solitude ..