Not directly sobriety related but my coworker makes fat jokes about me all the time. Most of the time I laugh or brush it off. Today it was rather soul crushing. I’m hoping I can turn this into motivation.
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That is a bully. Don’t laugh it off. Next time look at her and say excuse me, I didn’t hear you ….hopefully asking her to repeat it will make her uncomfortable …,
Then pray for her
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What?!! Do I need to come and kick somebody’s a**!!?! Yes, we can use things like that as motivation, but it’s the wrong kind of motivation my love. If it is who I think it is, he’s wrong and that’s messed up! Try not to let that get to you, I know it’s hard, we are the same in this way, but you’re good! I got your back 100% always! You’re beautiful!!
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That’s not cool in the least bit… Any type of body shaming… joke or not is wrong. Don’t let it get to you Tracy! You are a beautiful person inside and out. Tell the co worker it’s rude and will not be tolerated!
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I think you may have to get vulnerable and honest with this person and let them know it bothers you when they say those things. This is hard for me to do because I’m so cool and nothing bothers me (that’s what I want the world to think). First thing though, is to realize your beauty and worth in this world regardless of your physical attributes. Let it motivate you to love yourself as well
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Projection speaks volumes. Whatever this coworker hates about themselves is manifesting itself on you. And likely others as well.
1st course of action is to end the behavior.
Not everyone has the luxury of the soul searching that comes with recovery. Hopefully one day this person will heal enough to stop hurting others.
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Thank you guys for the kind words. 
I'm learning about setting healthy boundaries right now, and they obviously do not have them. I would recommend putting my foot down with them.
People often think it's okay to talk about how thin I am, "You should go get seconds string bean!"
I just say, "Thanks for bringing up my biggest insecurity to me!"
Usually does the trick. I hope they stop, sorry you're going through that!
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I think he’s used to me joking back or whatever .. but some days just hit differently
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Shooo hit up HR
That’s not ok! No where in recovery does it say we need to be ok with being abused, especially in the workplace. You are not the words of sick people, you are created perfect with all the artistic talent of your HP
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Yeah he shouldn't be doing that, period.
In a very kind way, have you worked Gluttony piece in Big Book to figure out what God thinks is right?
Fat doesn't come to mind looking at your photos. Your beautiful!...Those comments should never be tolerated even if it were true. HR should know about this
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Definitely not ok.
My personal experience and the BB have taught me that I have to look at my part, not theirs. 
So I found I would go around expecting people to act differently simply because I expect it, without telling them that their behavior is offensive. I assume they know, sadly many people don’t. I need to tell them. If it continues after that, in a work environment I take it to management/HR.
That’s just my experience.
Some folks are brain donors.
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I’m sorry .. I don’t understand what you’re asking me
You can’t let that happen. It’s abuse. Can you tell someone about it? That is stress you don’t need. Sobriety helps me deal with those things better. Saying something instead of holding it inside.
Part of it is my problem. We are friends and I’ve laughed it off and played along for so long, he thinks it’s ok.
This is something you guys have gone back and forth about, yes, all in fun…but when it starts to bother you in this manner, that’s when it may be time to say something about stopping that specific interaction. You may be cool with it 9 times out of 10 cause you joke back and forth, but that 1 time comes and it hurts for whatever reason different than the other tomes. And you don’t wanna hurt! You don’t deserve to hurt, even when unintentional.
You're FAR from fat and it sounds like homeboy needs a little adjustment in his people skills and maturity. Or. A smack
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