Okay people, I totally need someone who doesn't beat around the bush when it comes to struggling from alcohol and drugs,I want to stay grounded from toxic living,so my Q is what helped you ?please give me a straight forward answer!!
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MAT and rehab with therapy to boot.
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90 in 90
Go to 90 meetings in 90 days. I've seen this work for countless addicts.
It worked for me.
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Get a sponsor and a home group. Give thanks at night for another day clean and sober, ask for help in the morning. Find a power greater than yourself... It can be the group, Mother nature, or whatever you choose. They told me it would help if the power is loving and caring.
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Stop the cognitive dissonance. I had to stop having a battle with myself mentally so I could figure out why I had this distorted relationship with toxic substances.
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I wake up I read just for today. I read a spiritual quote for the day I’ll journalism and then I turn on the 24 seven NA Zoom Meeting meeting while I have a cigarette and a coffee that’s how I stop my day every day you feel happy motivated to stay clean and serious about your sobriety. It just starts my day off good
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Deborah, I struggled for way too long, by not getting serious enough about my sobriety. When I finally made my sobriety my number one priority in life and went to AA/NA/CA meetings every single day and night, got sponsored and did the 12 steps thoroughly, then life got much easier. 17 years of sobriety and so grateful.
I’m here if you want to talk or have any questions
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God - coming off a suicide attempt I confronted Him and said “If you’re not going to let me leave the planet, you have to give me my purpose, a reason - something that will honor you)- within a month I found it - I also took DBT therapy and did Everything the doctors told me to do - was taken off all head meds and finally properly diagnosed - oh and not only did I find my purpose, I’ve never had a single craving in 3.5 years -
this is all after 35 years of trying to quit - a million relapses - stick with it - it will happen - believe - child like faith 🩷🩷
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I went to every meeting O could, I made a decision that booze and drugs would help nothing, I studied every book I could find. For my physical self. ie, I went to the gym 6 days week. I tried to the best of my ability to work the steps, did yoga anything that I thought would be of help and pray pray pray. Talk to drunks and addicts. Even try to help other to get outside of my self. What ever works then do it.
Asking for help
That was my first step
When I wanted to give up I asked for help again
There are a lot of good people who want to help
Asking for help shows strength and courage
Good luck
Deborah, since you asked for straight forward. I wasted years. I was looking at a prison sentence. I had been successful, lost it all, and got to a place where I didn’t care anymore. Addiction ravished me. What finally stopped me wasn’t one thing, it was me getting stubborn enough to live instead of stubborn enough to keep using. What I wish I knew sooner… I had no idea why I was doing what I was doing. I had to find my why. The underneath. The stuff that was running the show before the drugs and alcohol ever did. If I had paid attention to other people’s stories, really paid attention, I might’ve gotten there faster. 7 years ago when I got sober, this culture barely existed. Now I’ve watched people go toe to toe with stigma and win, saving lives by telling the truth. So here’s the straight answer… find your why, learn from the people who’ve already been where you’re going, and keep showing up just keep showing up.
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Go to some form of rehab or 30 day program. Sit your a** in the chair and keep your feet planted on the ground. And Listen to what they tell you to do. Period. Don't try to twist it into how your way would be better for this or that. Do what they tell you. Be uncomfortable for awhile. That's how you will find true comfort. And don't lie to yourself anymore. You said you wanted to hear it real. Are you listening?
I only have 1 day right now. But, in the past, when I had substantial clean time, what helped was identifying the "why" behind my use, as someone else here pointed out. My whole life i had addiction and all these other related problems and never really knew the why or how. Until I forced myself to REALLY dig and meditate on it. If you do, you'll find your answer. And once you have that answer you can apply solutions. For me. It was my mental health. I used to escape the way i always felt. I couldn't stand it. So, I used. It was escapism. I wanted out. What I had to learn and probably learn all over again is that its ok to feel bad or down or depressed. That using actually only makes all of that and other mental health problems much much worse in the long run. I had to learn to just be ok in the moment. To embrace and accept my feelings, whether they'd be happy or sad. Restless or peaceful. Discontent or fulfilled. Etc,...
All of the different ways we feel are just that. Feelings. Not reality. They will pass. Always.
Also there are other and better solutions for mental health problems/disorders. Seeking a relationship with God, prayer, therapy, counseling, medications, exercise and yoga, breathing exercises, talking with a friend, taking cold showers, meditation, picking up new hobbies, finding your purpose and fulfilling it, going fo walks, watching a sunset/sunrise, music and music therapy, natural supplements and vitamins, being healthy and eating right, staying very hydrated, doing something nice for someone else, forcing yourself to smile and hold for 30 seconds to release dopamine and other feel-good neurotransmitters in your brain, retraining our thoughts and thinking process, positive talk and reinforcement, loving and being kind, merciful and gracious to yourself and remembering that all thoughts are fleeting and will eventually pass and lastly, distract yourself. These are most of the things ive found to help Matt/me in my journey and recovery. I hope this was helpful and/or encouraging in the least bit. Pulling for you and here if you need a friend or wanna chat.