Okay. So either a rehab or a SLE. These places can help me achieve a really good amount of sobriety time AND help me escape the narcissists home I am living in currently. I don't believe I will be able to stay clean/sober if I do not get independence and no longer need to ask ANYONE for help. (excluding AA/NA)
One of the foundations of AA is reaching out. I find continued sobriety is hard to do alone. 🫶🙏🏻
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I am currently in a SLE and it’s basically just a roof over my head..so really depends on what your needs are.
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My needs are too not be mentally abused anymore. That’s it. Just a place to live so I can go to meetings and live my life without all the fear anxiety manipulation and abuse. It’s been almost 10 years with a break in between when I had an apartment for a while.. but I have been back to save money so I can survive but this is not a life this is my h=ll
Yes I was meaning the only people I will be asking for anything from are other addicts and alcoholics. Nobody else in my life has ever seemed to get me in any way
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Seems like we are the only ones to understand us. I had to relapse and go back to treatment for my husband to begin to understand me. I was to the point that it was a waste of time to get clean if no one understood. I see where you are coming from.
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I am accused of still using by the narcissist I live with. I don’t think he really believes it, now. But it still hurts me because he’s attacking my character calling me a liar basically because I have told him my clean date and he doesn’t see me high anymore. I think that’s the point, to hurt me. I gotta get the f out of here ASAP
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My mother was a narcissist. She did no wrong and blamed everyone, I mean everyone for her misery. Sorry you gotta deal with that. Stick to your guns though!!
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If you feel that you are physically addicted to alcohol where you withdraw if you don’t have (that’s where I was) my suggestion would be to go to get medically detoxed and get on a drinking medication. I spent 9 days and came out with a complete recovery team, Intensive outpatient group, I do an early recovery group, I have a recovery coach and counselor to be able to call at anytime. Plus I met some amazing friends in recovery also that we check on each other everyday. I was drinking the minute I woke up. Nasty nasty. You can do this BUT you have to really WANT it. Good luck my friend. You got this. 
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Yeah, I don’t really drink. Not usually, I have had a bottle of wine in my fridge for about a week I haven’t touched since last weekend, I do not believe I am an alcoholic or have an issue with alcohol in any way. The clean date I’m using is my time I have been off of stimulants and opiates
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And thank you I appreciate it. I have been living in heck for years and I’m ready to do something to change that
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When I read your initial post I thought Alcohol and drugs. Either way, when I was in rehab a gentleman was there getting off opioids. It’s really all powerful junk. I wish you well.
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I have 113 days clean as of today so I don’t need detox but thank you, I appreciate it. Kind of you. 
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Oh I said I got to AA sometimes but not for alcohol. Just as an addict.
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Congratulations 
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So…you are just sober from your drugs of choice, not all substances?
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I am currently smoking marijuana because it helps with everything I’m trying to do. I am dual diagnosis. (Addiction and Mental Health Issues) but nothing else at this time. I feel that as long as I am abstaining from my drugs of choice, I will get to 100% sobriety. But I am not trying to do anything besides marijuana at all. I even detoxed from my Klonopin I was taking by prescription. I want to see if I can be okay without those as well..
BUT, I talked to this guy that is going to start driving me to NA, and I was honest with him before asking for the rides. He said he needed to do the same thing. And small world: he used to go to the PHP program I am doing 5 days a week, that I go to because of when I tried to kill myself at the end of this February.. 
Thank you! I just saw this just now, my bad.
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