On day 4 and my friends, who do not know I’m trying to stay clean, have asked me to go out for drinks tonight. I said no, but I’d be lying if I didn’t say I wasn’t thinking about it. I don’t have a way to an in person meeting but I’m definitely going to do an online meeting or two or however many I need tonight.
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You should open up to your friends, let them know.. I know some friends make take it as a joke though but opening up about your changes you want to make will make you stronger and less likely to fall into the influence of going back. I’d try.
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I definitely agree and know that is what I need to do I just have to find the courage to do it.
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you got this for sure, never be ashamed! 
Thank you Sharon for your support and words.
I know there is still a stigma associated with addiction, but most nowadays agree that it is a disease and you shouldn't be ashamed of it. True friends will honor your choice , so you definitely need to inform them of your sobriety; that way they won't inadvertently be tempting you to drink and could actually consider you into future events. 
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I agree. And honestly part of it is shame, but more so because I’ve said it before that I was quitting and then ended up drinking.
Suggestion only, I believe that you should be honest with your friends and if they stick around and understand those are true friends those who don’t that’s when WE MUST UNDERSTAND we need to change people places and things In order to stay sober. Good choice do meetings whatever keeps you from taking that first drink.Best wishes ❤️🩹
If you call the AA number on line. You can ask for a ride. People do it all the time. I know a
guy in a small
oil town out west
who asked the cops. They were happy when he told them
a little.
You got this!
Let's
check on here.
Where is home? Town and state.
Made it through the night without drinking. Thanks to all of you and the meetings I did.
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I drank and was the life of the party for 40 years. I honestly don't care what my drinking friends think. First time in my life I've been sober nearly 2 years. Exercising and working my retail store keep me sober. It's definitely rough changing your lifestyle. Gotta override the devil in your brain! Lol
Telling your friends and family is a good way of keeping yourself accountable and also in determining who is supportive in your journey.
Hint: your quest to improve yourself will make some other people uncomfortable with their own choices. And that’s their problem, not yours.
I have been cross addicted on and off for 17 1/2 year I got sober in June of 2021 thought I was doing everything right till I wasn’t and 6 months of being sober I relapsed big time with who I thought was the love of my life till I hit rock bottom we both went to jail then I went to rehab and he cheated and went back to jail cuz he didn’t want to change lol and now I’m doing the next right thing I’m doing the foot work get a sponsor a network cuz I did and I’m 8 months sober it works love 
My first suggestion would be to be honest with your friends. Then definitely get to meetings. I made the hardest decision to stay away from my friends and family since in recovery. They don’t understand what I am trying to do and not lying how hard it is to not drink some days but if I pick up again I am going to die. Just be honest because if they care for you they will appreciate your honesty. I have family members that haven’t spoken to me in 2 years. It’s not easy everyday but needs to be done my brother died at 33 no liver function left died yellow and really suffered. Then my other friend bled out from alcoholism in his car so point being yes it’s was fun until it wasn’t fun anymore but a necessity for me to drink not to be sick. Life can get real boring because alcohol is so celebrated but they don’t show the harsh reality of what it does to you. Keep your course. Good luck. I hope this makes sense. 
Do you think they don’t know? Real friends would be happy for you. The great obsession is thinking someday we will be able to control our alcoholism. You can’t turn a pickle back into a cucumber. Really need to think about and talk about acceptance. AA is about a spiritual awakening. It comes from the point of Carl Jung. It’s a way to peace serenity and freedom from bondage to self. It’s quite interesting really. Read your book and if you want what aa offers it’s going to take honesty open mindedness and willingness. Check out the appendix The Spiritual Experience. One day at a time sometimes one minute but desire to drink will pass quickly. It gets easier I promise.
I just want to give you fair warning. Depending on whether your friends support you or not you may have to be willing in the near future to part ways with them. That's one of the realities of changing our lives. You'll find out after a while that most of those people weren't really your friends to begin with.
I don't know anyone that I used to party with anymore.
Of course I wasn't making too many friends when I was drinking in the last days anyway. LOL
Thank you to everyone. I made it through another day without drinking/using. I’m so grateful for all of you and meetings.
If their your real friends they’ll not only support u but genuine friends would wanna go somewhere for sober fun for all of u
Off u drink then your not “ you “ and that’s who your friends want