Ive had people try to say to me “one drink can’t really change that much for you, you can just have one drink with us. And for me No I Can Not. That one drink does change things for me, and its still something i don’t understand. I watch my other friends drink socially but drinking for me leads to looking for coke, once I get that I need something strong so I can feel it, then Im not sleeping so I need to downers so I can get some rest. So yes some of us one drink changes our lives, and I think that its ok for us to say it, and shouldn’t be something I get 20 questions over, just understanding with no pressure
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It’s ok to just say no and don’t elaborate. “Normal” drinkers don’t get it and never will so save yourself some aggravation and don’t even try. Make it simple.
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I draw clear boundaries that if someone pressures me to drink. They will rarely see me.
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I have the same problem as you. One drink and now I got to get some blow to go with it. And once I take that first it’s over it’s gonna be a long night. Best move is don’t take that first drink. Good luck to you
Thank you. Once people start drinking there’s no getting through to them then anyways, at least how I look at it.
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For the most part I do the same. Sometimes I find myself trying to explain too much, defending myself, but it doesn’t end well when people are drinking already
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My DOC isn’t alcohol however it is the easiest to get your hands on, more socially acceptable. It is my gateway drug though. I haven’t had a drink longer than I’ve been sober from drugs and don’t intend to drink anytime soon either. Thank you. Best wishes to you too
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One drink turns me into MR HYDE. I literally become a completely different person. And that person is not anyone’s friend including me.
Thanks for the reminder 
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You’re right, one is too many, and that’s not just theory, it’s a slippery slope. A system that kicks in and honestly the WHY doesn’t fully make sense to a lot of us either. Our brains are just wired different, one drink flips a switch that doesn’t exist for other people. We don't have to understand fully to know our sobriety needs to be protected at all costs. The people who get it, get it. The ones who don’t aren’t the ones you need in your corner when it counts. Proud of you, keep in keeping on.
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Never need to explain no is good enough. For me I am incapable of juts having 1 so I know one turns into many. When people persists feel free to let them know juts that even though u owe them Nothing
After 7 years sober. I hit educated, owned a business, very successful and because of that I thought I was OK. I had one drink in a relaxed social setting and it didn't stop got 13 more years. The difference... I didn't do any recovery work. This time it's work everyday.
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I’m the same way. I explain it simply by saying my body isn’t wired to have just “1 drink”. Tried it. Absolutely did not work and I know that. You’re not alone whatsoever. We are who we are. Nothing to be ashamed of, it’s just a fact and you certainly are not alone in this🙏 Recognizing and owning that is a big step. Does it stink? Ya it does but we have to grow from that and not let it suck us back in.
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I understand. Period.
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Congrats on saying no! I feel the same way I can't have just 1 drink. It can be hard but every no makes you stronger
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I tell people that I have an allergy to alcohol... I break out in hand cuffs.
Gets the point across with a humorous twist. They don't know what to say. Works like a charm.
Hey can u handle my 12 inch ccok?(
This!
Anyone who tries to convince you to drink when you dont want to is not your ally.