One of the aspects of sobriety I failed to consider

One of the aspects of sobriety I failed to consider before starting was how much of my music was something that I would end up avoiding. .. even some of the songs that weren't specifically about drinking would just remind me of when I drank.

Slowly expanding my library, but any suggestions?

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I put my guitar in my case , I haven’t touched it in 79 days. Brand new heads on my drums, only tuned them, I basically quit when I quit…….I need to pick back up. Not using , Music

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Though I meant new music to listen to... playing is something I increased when I quit. Helped for therapeutic reasons, plus turns out I can play better when I'm not trashed lol. Trying to improve gave me something else to work towards

Without knowing your preferences, I can’t really recommend , but I do know in my experience , songs I’ve heard thousands of times now have a whole new meaning.
I’ll get back to playing music, but right now I’m tidying up the family life and making up for my absenteeism the past three years. Fortunately for me, because of NA, and AA, I have my loved ones present to make those amends.

That's a fair trade

Daniel-Pick it up and play a different genre-this new genre can be your sober you. You are good on the guitar-right? If it is your passion-do it

Hey Thomas and Daniel! This is a really interesting conversation actually. Music is super important in my life too and I hadn’t considered why I don’t play guitar and sing anymore, and why I have various emotional responses to certain music. Bad or good associations/memories, new perspectives, clearer mind. Daniel, I loved what you said about songs you’ve heard thousands of times have different meanings, and getting back to playing when you’re ready. Thomas, I think it’s great you were able to dive into playing more as a way of healing. Thanks for sharing, guys!

Thomas, what kind of music to you tend to like/looking for?

I prefer the term "aggressively mediocre at guitar"

I'm all over the place in terms of genre, I just know a good song when I hear it. I like a good bassline and vocals; a little brass never heard anyone. Good driving guitar rhythms for metal, or good bluegrass, or good funk- I don't know. I'm branching out into new variations

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Yes, Five Finger Death Punch is always good- not a huge fan of "Blue on Black" though (not that it's bad, it just doesn't hold a candle to something like "Inside Out")

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AGREED!! ...keepin in clean :soap:LOL

The unexpected joy of being sober has a great playlist!

So funny!

Let me ask you this brother.
Did you stop living life when you stopped living dirty and got clean, or did you start learning how to live life clean?
One could easily say drugs/alcohol was associated with their music but so was waking up and taking that first conscious breath of the day.
During our drinking/drugging we didn’t turn to life for comfort.. we turned to addiction for comfort. Now that we are clean we learn how to live life on life’s terms without a drink pill or fix.. it all starts at a pace though a steady pace. And being that music or any art for that matter is a part of lives.. that starts of at a steady pace as well.
You’d be surprised how many individuals on this app play/write and they are living life free from the horrors of addiction.
Do it slowly but do it brother.
“Steady pace”

While I appreciate the sentiment...I think you missed what I was saying :laughing:

If you don’t mind me asking..
What were you exactly saying? I’m a bit slow at catching things so I have to keep going over things until I get on track.
Kind of like my addiction. :laughing:

I found myself doing a deep dive back into the music of my youth honestly. Music I was into before my first drink.

Ironically enough, I listen to mostly the Grateful Dead, Bob Dylan and some Phish these days. This music is often associated with drugs, but it really speaks to me in a way I couldn’t hear or feel when I was all messed up.

Tool.. the band.. helped me alot

My friend I found this out also.part of my triggers was my music.I hear let's say ten co music it brings me back to my rave day's gets me all pumped up inside.puts me in such a state where I want to get high and be apart of the music.for me I had to leave or stay away from music that will trigger me.it's not easy but if you really want to get better you will change it up..only the one's that effect your recovery..surrender for the better