I’m over all of this. I’m tired of not sleeping. I’m tired of feeling frustrated. I’m tired of my body feeling like death. I just want to punch stuff. I’m tired of this dam headache. What’s the point?! I’m miserable sober. I’m miserable drunk. I’m just crying out of feeling so hopeless. Why can’t I just be happy. I don’t ever think I will get there. I want to give up on everything.
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You are still very early in sobriety… it takes a while just to detox. Don’t give up. Sleep patterns change, body aches ease up, anger subsides. You need to be easy on yourself. How do you know you will be “miserable sober”? We have been there… I personally was there. I felt hopeless. Angry. Guilt ridden… I had to finally admit that alcohol kicked my @ss! You can get there. It’s not easy! But it is worth it. I believe in you!
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Tim is right. Your body is crabby because youre not giving it the poison it wants. It will get better. Drink lots of water, take b vitamins and vitamin d, take a shower or a bath right before bed. Put a movie on that you love and have seen 1000 times.
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Oh man. I remember 5 days. I messed my pants 3 times on day 5. I vividly remember feeling everything you are now so I hear you. I was going to die, completely broken and desperate. I hope you don’t give up and fight like your life depends on it. It does get better and in time a lot better.
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Thank you. I’m trying. I’m still so conflicted. What’s the point in all of this?
Thank you. I’m literally fighting myself. Part of me wants to believe it will get better if I stay sober. But the demon on my shoulder keeps asking why? What’s the point? My anger is just so intense right now too. I literally wanna scream, break stuff, punch things. I guess I want to have an adult tantrum? Lol everything is just so stupid and chaotic for me right now. Have my knees to my chest curled up just trying to breath. This is so horrible.
I hate this feeling more than life itself. I just want it to go away.
At this moment. I suggest finding professional support. If that means a crisis professional, rehab, medical withdrawal, what you feeling is dangerous and life threatening. It is beyond the experience that is available on a support site. Please you are worthy.
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I relate to this. This part of life sucks. It just does. I'm learning I have to accept I just wont be happy right away. I may not be happy for a while. I'm processing a traumatic year(s) so I'm having to accept that my life changed and I cant convince myself I love my life or myself. I tried pretending and forcing it and all i got was more denial and another relapse. We feel you. Things take time longer for some. Consider it as season of rain but one day there really will a better day. Someone said this to me and I realized I've been denying myself accepting it's just shitty. It's hard to accept. Ugh.
You are not alone in this feeing. God, I know it well. Doesn’t seem to matter what happens to me, it’s all the same. The world just keeps going, no matter what I do or what happens to me.
It is something I struggle with daily. Know that you are not alone in this, friend!
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Oh my gosh yes. You get it. Im literally starring at the bottle wondering if I should or shouldn’t. Does it even matter?
Get rid of any alcohol in the house. It is too tempting miserable and it will get better. Took me some time. My anxiety went through the roof and I needed professional help. Can you see a counselor for support. You need someone sober to talk to for support. Find some women with good sobriety here or in meetings.
Never give up. There is a hope.
I do understand Angelica and I think you need to begin working on why you feel all those feelings so strongly. These are the feelings you've been numbing with alcohol they don't go away they just get numbed. I can absolutely promise you it does get better in time. I know you can do this. One breath at a time
Get to a meeting!!! Sit your as down and listen. The solution is out there!
Trust me, I felt exactly the same way. I was bawling my eyes out in treatment around the same time in that you have sober. I wanted to end it. I felt like there is no future for me and what is the point of going on if all there is to life is work and bills and conversations. But something clicked a few more days in and I haven't looked back. All of those feelings physical and mental are only temporary and it is your body trying to rebalance after all the chemical imbalance. Please believe me that it gets 1000 times better! Keep fighting! It is so worth it. You can do this!!!!!
It's 10 mi into the woods and 10 Mi back out. It doesn't feel very good right now but I can promise you that the payoff is tremendous.
Just for today.
One day at a time.
Also learn to play the scene forward. What happens if you pick up a drink or drug. The relief you feel will be very short-lived and when it's all over with you will be carrying around a lot of guilt regretting your decision. It's a big fat lie telling you that this time everything will be okay. But it never is, is it?
Quality of life takes time. It doesn't happen overnight. We don't get this way overnight and we don't get better overnight.
I understand that feeling. But, what’s the point? Well, my small AA group lost 3 people this year. So part of the point is staying alive.
I bet you’ll feel a temporal sense of joy and happiness when you give up now which will later become a source of misery and you’ll be more unhappy than the way you’re now