How do you all deal with emotional pain? How have you been able to move on from a relationship? What do you do to make things better for yourself? My mind is all over the place and waking up each morning reality sets in.. it hurts so bad.
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I think having close people to talk to and lean on is huge and also a change of pace doing new, fun things to help with your mental health would help. I'm also in MN and you can reach out to me when ever!
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Thank you so much!! Where in mn are you? I’m in Rochester
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Working the 12 steps with a sponsor really helped me.
In early sobriety I had to restructure all my relationships.
Don’t trip too hard, stay sober, work the steps, be of service and it’ll all work itself out. Much better than you can imagine
@felicia234000 I’ve recently had to remove someone from my life that meant the world to me. I’m sober, living a “program first” life and she is not. I cannot change her even though I’ve tried, I cannot help her even though I’ve tried. My sponsor told me to be ready to support her by being available if she comes around and uses her phone list, calls her sponsor, starts going back to meetings. Until then unfortunately there is little I can do. It breaks my heart daily but through prayer, my sponsor, my home group, and service work I’ll be ok and make the next right decision. I miss her and feel lonely a lot. Sometimes the most important pain in recovery is the “good” kind. I just have to remember that the most important thing is my recovery comes first. Everything else will be provided as long as I put in the work. I feel for you and hope comfort in our community!
I am sorry you’re going through this.
Recently went through the same thing. Easily the worst experience of my life. It’s tough. But as has been said here meetings, sponsor, steps and being of service is amazing medicine for the hurt and devastation.
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Sounds cheesy but time will heal all. If they are meant to be in your life they will come back and you would know. Use this time to take inventory of your life and make Felicia priority.
Feel the pain, cry, scream, yell. Do everything you can do to let it out but also find yourself in this moment and make the best out of a bad situation.
Take up something you know you wouldn’t normally do or travel somewhere you never been. Life is about being around with people who value your presence and time.
If you need to talk I’m here. Currently dealing with loss while being sober and on the surface I have it but I feel like i myself is slowly getting knocked down.